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Justfrozen

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How are you supposed to find a friend/ relationship when you are socially broken, mentally depressed and have anxiety.
There should be a forum/ dating app for us.
Is there one that I don’t know about in the UK?
 
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eclypse20

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i thinks someone's qualities depend on who's describe him

Even though we have some antisocial qualities, there is always a little quality that we have that can be appreciated by the other.

honestly I think that as long as we are all human beings, there will always be a person to understand us and accept us with all our personality
 
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How are you supposed to find a friend/ relationship when you are socially broken, mentally depressed and have anxiety.
There should be a forum/ dating app for us.
Is there one that I don’t know about in the UK?
I'm in favour of this buddy definitely think it'd work a dating app that only people with mental health would only use. As soon as you use the word mental health in a normal dating apps it's freaks people out unfortunately but somewhere where everyone is similar is definitely a brilliant idea if I was clued up with software I'd create a app myself.
 
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I found the two wonderful friends who showed up like magic at my worst point were just scammers, they wanted money! We don't even speak now, but what goes 'round comes 'round and they will show their true colors to everyone else I expect.

It's not having mental illness, it's how we handle it, with grace and compassion for ourself and for others, reveals character.

(((((((((((( )))))))))))))) @Justfrozen
 
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Probably not the answer you want to hear but by fixing yourself (at least a little) and then putting yourself out there.

It's not a pretty reality but a reality nonetheless that nobody wants to be around a clinically depressed and generally someone that's not something beyond their illness and nobody owes us anything, much less friendship or a relationship and in any case if you're at least not a little healthy then you don't have much to offer.

Forums and apps aren't the solution, at best you can come across a similarly desperate and ill person and to share miseries but even that's difficult to find and won't last in the long run.
 
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Justfrozen

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Probably not the answer you want to hear but by fixing yourself (at least a little) and then putting yourself out there.

It's not a pretty reality but a reality nonetheless that nobody wants to be around a clinically depressed and generally someone that's not something beyond their illness and nobody owes us anything, much less friendship or a relationship and in any case if you're at least not a little healthy then you don't have much to offer.

Forums and apps aren't the solution, at best you can come across a similarly desperate and ill person and to share miseries but even that's difficult to find and won't last in the long run.
That’s cheered me up! P
 
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I'm in favour of this buddy definitely think it'd work a dating app that only people with mental health would only use. As soon as you use the word mental health in a normal dating apps it's freaks people out unfortunately but somewhere where everyone is similar is definitely a brilliant idea if I was clued up with software I'd create a app myself.
Very much agree, this would be a great idea. You're right, as soon as you mention that you have mental health issues, it usually puts people off which is awful because everyone has struggles in life.
 
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I think NWiddi has some information
on sites for people like us
 
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ElliotA

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How are you supposed to find a friend/ relationship when you are socially broken, mentally depressed and have anxiety.
There should be a forum/ dating app for us.
Is there one that I don’t know about in the UK?
I'm exactly the same, if you feel it'd be good to chat then get in touch. I'm from the UK and been finding it hard to male friends this year!

Good luck either way.
 
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hi just frozen, i need a friend, hope you are doing ok
 
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Justfrozen

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Very low, and empty, can’t get out of my past and fix my future
 
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Very low, and empty, can’t get out of my past and fix my future
I know exactly how you feel, Justfrozen. But you will get through this. As long as you have an income and a roof over your head and you stay away from drugs and alcohol (I went a bit nuts after my divorce but stopped when I realised where it was all headed) your mood will stabilise and improve. But it will take time. Maybe a couple of years. You don’t know what to do with yourself at the moment because you are still in the thick of it all. It is a cliche, but it is now a case of one day at a time and focusing on small things that get you through each day. That gut-wrenching feeling of loss and of being lost will gradually dissipate. Not completely, it never goes, but it gets better x
 
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I know exactly how you feel, Justfrozen. But you will get through this. As long as you have an income and a roof over your head and you stay away from drugs and alcohol (I went a bit nuts after my divorce but stopped when I realised where it was all headed) your mood will stabilise and improve. But it will take time. Maybe a couple of years. You don’t know what to do with yourself at the moment because you are still in the thick of it all. It is a cliche, but it is now a case of one day at a time and focusing on small things that get you through each day. That gut-wrenching feeling of loss and of being lost will gradually dissipate. Not completely, it never goes, but it gets better x
That’s what I can’t cope with, the time it so say takes, it never going away, the life I had built that is no more. I just want to be able to walk away and forget my past. I’m in need of something but don’t know what it is. I don’t drink and only take the prescribed kind. That’s what makes me boring, no drinking alcohol and not socialising. I was a work, home and tv kind of person. I’m now just. Work person but for what 8 do not know.
 
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That’s what I can’t cope with, the time it so say takes, it never going away, the life I had built that is no more. I just want to be able to walk away and forget my past. I’m in need of something but don’t know what it is. I don’t drink and only take the prescribed kind. That’s what makes me boring, no drinking alcohol and not socialising. I was a work, home and tv kind of person. I’m now just. Work person but for what 8 do not know.
What you’ve lost is that psychological crutch which is being with your family. In my experience it can’t be replaced with anything. You have to change the way you look at things. Not easy.
 
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