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Hi,
I wondered if anyone has any experience of this PD.
I'm in a bit of a mess at the moment after several years of things getting on top of me (work, personal life, finances) and started treatment for depression last week after it all came to a head.
I smashed up my kitchen pretty badly (noone was hurt) but I completely snapped after a few trying months both at work and at home.
The problem is that I think my OH suffers from this cndition but is so cunning and convincing, that everyone thinks he is the perfect, funny, loving husband.
However, he is a complusive liar (has been from the day that I met him 16 years ago), compulsive shopper (just spent 4000€ on designer suits for hmself - not one cent for me despite most of this being a bonus I received from work and he can't see or won't admit what the problem is). He is selfish, egotistical, has created a fantasy world where he is going to inherit millions, family owns property that doesn't exist, he's had fabulous jobs that I kow he's never had.
He lies about almost everything and will not listen to anything I say. None of my feelings are ever taken into account, and with our daughter, he is quite happy to make me out to be the worst mother in the world in the hope that she takes his side.
In brief he manipulates peoplewith his lies, cover ups etc.
He came with me when I went to see my GP last week - he would hrdly let me speak and the reason I took him with me was to hear from a professional, her opinion about what is wrong with me instead of his amateur psychology lectures and what he thinks is wrong.
I am at the end of my tether - snapping made it worse for me because I ended up in the police station (without charge however because in this country you cannot be presecuted for breakign your own plates
) and I know he will use this against me if it comes to a custody battle.
Does anyone have experience of this? I have a friend in a similar situation, her husband and mine are like book ends, its frightening.
I'm getting treatment for myself, but if he doesn't take my GP's advice and get help himslef (because naturally she cannot be right, as he ALWAYS knows better than anyone else!!!) how can I convince people that I think he has NPD!!! I feel like screaming because his behaviour is a major reason that I am in this situation today. He has everyone fooled and i feel like noone is listening to me!
Any comments most welcome
Thanks
I wondered if anyone has any experience of this PD.
I'm in a bit of a mess at the moment after several years of things getting on top of me (work, personal life, finances) and started treatment for depression last week after it all came to a head.
I smashed up my kitchen pretty badly (noone was hurt) but I completely snapped after a few trying months both at work and at home.
The problem is that I think my OH suffers from this cndition but is so cunning and convincing, that everyone thinks he is the perfect, funny, loving husband.
However, he is a complusive liar (has been from the day that I met him 16 years ago), compulsive shopper (just spent 4000€ on designer suits for hmself - not one cent for me despite most of this being a bonus I received from work and he can't see or won't admit what the problem is). He is selfish, egotistical, has created a fantasy world where he is going to inherit millions, family owns property that doesn't exist, he's had fabulous jobs that I kow he's never had.
He lies about almost everything and will not listen to anything I say. None of my feelings are ever taken into account, and with our daughter, he is quite happy to make me out to be the worst mother in the world in the hope that she takes his side.
In brief he manipulates peoplewith his lies, cover ups etc.
He came with me when I went to see my GP last week - he would hrdly let me speak and the reason I took him with me was to hear from a professional, her opinion about what is wrong with me instead of his amateur psychology lectures and what he thinks is wrong.
I am at the end of my tether - snapping made it worse for me because I ended up in the police station (without charge however because in this country you cannot be presecuted for breakign your own plates

Does anyone have experience of this? I have a friend in a similar situation, her husband and mine are like book ends, its frightening.
I'm getting treatment for myself, but if he doesn't take my GP's advice and get help himslef (because naturally she cannot be right, as he ALWAYS knows better than anyone else!!!) how can I convince people that I think he has NPD!!! I feel like screaming because his behaviour is a major reason that I am in this situation today. He has everyone fooled and i feel like noone is listening to me!
Any comments most welcome

Thanks