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narcissistic discard after 12 yrs together

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and I did not have a clue. not one. I knew he was bipolar as am I. then he got caught with his hand in the cookie jar 3 different ways and 3 days later without any conversation about it at all, he just walks out. I tried, cried, begged him to talk to me and for the first time I saw him when his mask slipped. He was sadistically enjoying hurting me and seeing my pain and agony. I will never forget that face. It was chilling to the bone. So I had to find out what was going on and found other stories that matched mine and they are narcissism. They are toxic. and I am mad to lose out on the dream we had been creating and having to pick things apart for recovery purposes. Last week while I was away he ransacked my house, I still haven't been up there to see what he took. Yes, I would pay to get rid of him now. I still have to get him off my lot lease as he can cause me to lose everything. I will get an attorney as soon as I can. Right now I am without electricity. (at friends house now) My panic and anxiety is through the roof.
 
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wow im sorry things are so hard
I just wanted to send love and say I really hope things improve for you soon
love Lu xxxx
 
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awww im so sorry, I have had these experiences
I tend to attract people like that ...
keep posting as to how its going
we have all been there ...

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he is communicating, sort of, for the first time since he left. I made him an offer to clear my lot lease and I would sign off on the car and if he helps with elec, I will pay him. we chatted. I knew what I had to do was to build him up and be loving. I am sure he was lying about some things. anyway no reponse on the offer. I have added a deadline.
 
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oh well done trying to communicate !
try not to expect too much of it at once though
if he is emotionally closed
he will only open up a little bit

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Can't make a deal with someone you cannot trust and who will tell any lie. He has f'ed me over so badly! I am having horrible panic attacks. I am in hiding until I get my klonopin in 2 days. I have never been put in a worse situation.
 
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k we are here listening to help you

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I tried, cried, begged him to talk to me and for the first time I saw him when his mask slipped. He was sadistically enjoying hurting me and seeing my pain and agony. I will never forget that face. It was chilling to the bone.
I have also lived this experience! Mine was so lovely and kind one day and giving me the silent treatment the next. He was punishing me for finding out he lied about going to work when he didn't for months. This went on the first time for two weeks. I had enough and came to him crying, "do you love me anymore?" And he said,"I don't know" while looking at me on and off while I cried and I cried. I was so hurt, I loved my husband and he was being cruel. He was enjoying watching me cry and kept looking back at me with amusement in his eyes. I didn't understand then. Now I do! Evil!
 
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yes, tulip! when I saw the sadistic side, enjoying my hurt that he caused, my pain and anguish, the mask dropped and that image remains. yes, it was evil cruelty. I am glad that it just ended there for me as far as emotional involvement but what a mess to sort out I am left with! thank you for the support. I am sorry you had to go through that.
 
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