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my worry for my child

Valarie

Valarie

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Im have bipolar with psycosis, i also have a five year old daughter and i get so worried and scared that i have passed it on to her. I will worry and worry about this until she makes it to 30 with no mental illness. That is a long time of worry, any advice?
 
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Well, what I would say is that bipolar is not known as a definite genetically passed on illness. Yes, there is a huge genetic suggestion but it is not definite. I think for me there was a gentic predisposition but life trauma kicked it off. Without the life trauma I may have been ok.

Many many children of bipolar parents do not go on to develop it. In fact, I know of a few.

It is really hard to live in the moment but it is a skill worth learning. Giving your child the most secure stable life you can manage is what is important just now. Try not to spoil your enjoyment of her childhood by worrying.

Take care

HH x
 
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hey

I have 2 grown up children and yes it was a little bit of a worry. People on here could tell me all the science in the world about there being no proof of a genetic link, but where a child is concerned, us mums are not always rational !! Neither of my children has bipolar, and with the host of people I have met with bipolar, only one has a grown up child who has mild symptoms of it. The vast majority have nothing wrong.

There is a danger that you will interpret all kind of behaviour as being bipolar when it is not. I know I made that mistake once. If your children behave in antagonsitic ways, screaming a lot, being hyper active, don't jump to conclusions. Mydaughter was Nightmare on Elms Street at times and all over the place, but she was not bipolar, just high spirited and she got through safely enough (after turning my hair grey).

As Happy says, enjoy your children, enjoy all the ups and downs. If you start projecting into the future with "what ifs" you will never end. What if they get run down by a bus, what if they break their necks on the playground equipment. Yes there is a minute risk, but that is the point - risk assessment. The risks are very small, and the chances of being fine are high. Chuck those "what ifs" out of the window.
 
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