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my sister is harming herself

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si1901

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Hi, I have only just joined this forum but I would like some advice.
I am 23 and my sister is 17 and this morning she came downstairs with bandages on her arms because she said she was self harming. I am absolutely terrified in the worst happening. Whenever she goes out, I am sick with worry for a phone call or a knock on the door. She has suffered with depression for 4 years and has relapsed back into self harm. Yesterday we had an open discussion and she said she can’t stop self harming because it feels like the only way to release pain and hurt. She is currently in a relationship that our parents aren’t too keen on and I know this guy makes her happy and I am happy to see her happy but it’s out of my hands with our parents. I can see they aren’t being horrible they just don’t want to see her get let down but this is getting my sister down cos she’s constantly battling to move out of the family home and live with this guy (our parents agreed she can do this when she’s 18) which is only in a few months. I am terrified of losing her. She doesn’t want to talk to me today. And I don’t know what to do, thank you in advance for your advice.
 
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BetaMale

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IMO the best thing you can do is to be there for her. Also, if living in the family home is making her so unhappy, maybe you should persuade your parents to let her move out with her boyfriend. After all, a few months hardly makes any difference with regard to her maturity.
 
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Hi,
Welcome to the forum
It's great she has a sister like you, do her parents know about the self-harming?
She really needs professional help, her GP would be the first port of call.
Hope she gets better soon
Hope you have some support to.
Take care
 
daffy

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I think you really need to tell your parents what’s going on. They probably don’t have an idea just how upset by this she really is. I don’t know if your parents are justified in worrying about this relationship I think you really need to find out the full story and see if their right to be concerned or just overreacting because of her age
 
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