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My schizophrenia has made me a failure

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Metalman5

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Due to my illness I cannot hold down a job. Because I only make disability women do not want me. Is there a woman here in the states who doesn’t hold money above all else. It’s not like I need a woman to support me she would only have to support herself. So what that I cannot buy her an suv and gold jewelry. I would treat her well and give her the most important thing of all, my love.

plus I am a great cook and she would even eat well, hell I would even buy the food. Living with me she would not pay rent so she would save 800-1400 dollars a month which she could spend on herself.

I have also lost 70 pounds in the last two years and am at my high school weight.
My family says I am a very handsome man, but women never say that to me.

I am a very sweet and caring man also but I cannot even get a date, not even a chance! Women always reject me. A friend of mine gets hit on by the same women that reject me and he grows a very patchy beard, swears a lot and is 5 foot3.

why am I so undesirable?

its been ten years since I’ve had a date and I am starting to believe there is no hope and that love has passed me by.
 
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You sound like you would make an excellent partner. Sometimes women cannot handle a good man as they are stuck in a negative mindset
 
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Go out to and mingle , if you want someone go out and find her. You can do it!
 
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You just make sure you have a confident attitude. The rest will fall into place.
 
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I have been mingling and socializing with women, they ALWAYS reject me. It is not from lack of trying. It is not like I am sitting in a dark basement, angry because women do not fall from the sky and ring my doorbell!
 
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Have you tried being an asshole. Surprisingly enough women see guys who treat them like dirt as a challenge to overcome.
 
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Thank you Lord Burt , it just seems as if being a nice guy is a turnoff to women.
 
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I just cannot bring myself to being nasty to anyone, although I have often wondered how things would be different if I could.
 
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Just speak your mind, it will suffice.
 
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Thank you for being here, Lord Burt

I am just so sick of hearing maybe we can talk another time, or I have a headache now is not good.

everytime I have tried to follow up with maybe tomorrow then or in a few days it gets awkward and they end up running away. I have learned that “another time” without a follow up time or day from a women is code for go away.

boy have I heard that a lot.
 
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I don't know the answer, but it is okay to take a break from all. of it for a while.
 
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Due to my illness I cannot hold down a job. Because I only make disability women do not want me. Is there a woman here in the states who doesn’t hold money above all else. It’s not like I need a woman to support me she would only have to support herself. So what that I cannot buy her an suv and gold jewelry. I would treat her well and give her the most important thing of all, my love.

plus I am a great cook and she would even eat well, hell I would even buy the food. Living with me she would not pay rent so she would save 800-1400 dollars a month which she could spend on herself.

I have also lost 70 pounds in the last two years and am at my high school weight.
My family says I am a very handsome man, but women never say that to me.

I am a very sweet and caring man also but I cannot even get a date, not even a chance! Women always reject me. A friend of mine gets hit on by the same women that reject me and he grows a very patchy beard, swears a lot and is 5 foot3.

why am I so undesirable?

its been ten years since I’ve had a date and I am starting to believe there is no hope and that love has passed me by.
I am someone who puts money above everything else, but I have been through the failure stage when my schizoaffective was really bad, and I lost my job and everything. Now I am in a good job, and they appreciate me there. I think, from experience, that it is possible to do well again. I had to fight some severe psychosis at my last job...I really don't even know how I was able to stay there a year. If you fight through, you can make it. Medicine helps too if you get the right combination. I hate to sound cliché, but don't give up. There are A LOT of women who go for men on disability because it is a stable income, but if you want a job again, don't limit yourself in your thinking, you can do it again and be even better 💕
 
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Dear rawlinsc ,

years ago , I tried online dating with eharmony, but for some reason they said they had no matches for me. Also, from other people I have heard time and time again that people often lie on online profiles here in the states. I do not have patience with liars and am more of an in person kind of guy.

maybe, online is my only option, but it worries me.
 
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im 44 and never had a relationship (not even ever had sex).....i was on a date once when i was 18 but it was awful......i couldnt talk to her at all and i was with her for 5+ hours .......

anyawy i personally think sexual relationships are very shallow, its all about t!t and As* .....and as you said you rself the man has to have money status, confidence or whatevevr else.....personally ive given up on it, i think its a waste of time.....very shallow
 
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