- Oct 8, 2019
- Murfreesboro, tennessee
Hi, this is my first post and I’d really appreciate some feedback on something I’m going through right now. I think my partner had a mental breakdown. My partner and I had been together for 3.5 years, he was a father to my children and always treated me with love and respect. He lost his job (our only source of income) in August and decided he wanted to move from the state we were in to a new state and within a week we were moved. Things started getting really bad. We were arguing constantly, couldn’t see eye to eye but it was only over small things. We were still intimate with each other, showering together, having sex, cuddling, laughing and being playful but when it came to communication it just wasn’t there anymore. We had been fighting for about two days when he exploded on me when I told him he needed to find employment because I couldn’t afford rent on my own, left for three hours, then came back and packed a bag and told me he was leaving the state to stay with friends. I freaked out and begged him to stay, begged him to work on things but he couldn’t be reasoned with. He didn’t speak to me for 4-5 days but when he did finally contact me on a Wednesday he told me he wasn’t done with us and that he just needed space. I agreed to space but asked him that we could still speak a couple times a week and work on things-he agreed. He came and got more of his things on the following Friday but I was working and didnt get to see him. The next day, Saturday, he texted me a 6 page long message basically telling me I was the cause of all his problems, that he didn’t want to be with me, and that I was ruining my children. He immediately blocked me from everything after sending the message and I never got a chance to respond. He blamed me for all our problems, and told me I needed help. I’m very confused because previously we communicated rather well. I would always express when I was upset and would comfort him when he was upset. Whenever I would express being upset though he would huff and puff and get really defensive, so my natural reaction was to ask him if there was anything I did to upset him or anything he thought I should work on and he would always swear that he felt fine towards me and that I was a great person/partner/mother. Do you think he had a mental breakdown? Will I ever get answers or even hear from him again? We spent every day together for almost 4 years and we were a solid, loving family. We had our ups and downs which I believe to be normal but never anything too serious apart from stressful life events. I have no closure and am very lost and confused at this point. Is there anyone out there who had experienced this? I just want to know what others unbiased opinions are on this. Thank you.