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My partner has schizophrenia. Just wanted advice/perspective

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daydreamer40

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I adore my partner, we have been seeing each other 7 years. I have aspergers, he has schizophrenia. He is very, very funny and we have more laughter in our time together than you could imagine. I am quite a romantic though, and crave for us to go out as a couple and do things together. I am aware that it probably will never be like this; our time together is in his abode, drinking beer! I am trying to accept that that is how it will be. He is on Olanzapine and that knocks him out and he works so hard so I don't want to pester him. He did say he loved me once and it made my heart dance, but it was related to something I'd given him as a gift! I wonder what relationships are like for anyone out here? I know I am going to have to rely on friends for emotional support as he can only cope with his own mind! And that's fine. I am just thankful when he is content as that makes me happy. I wonder if schizophrenia overlaps with aspergers as we have so many similarities...not liking crowds, going into our own worlds, taking metaphors literally : )
 
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Freesong

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Laughter is a good start to a relationship. I call it the spice of life. It sounds like he accepts you and that is another plus.

Many diagnosed conditions in mental illness overlap each other. I guess that many relationships I hear about the romance is one of the first things to go even if it was once great.

I have lived alone and with someone else and even though there is more freedom in being alone there is comfort in having a companion to talk to and laugh with.

Some people immerse themselves in their hobbies and find a fulfillment there. It sounds like you are doing all you can to make this relationship as good as possible. Is that acceptable to you even if he is unlikely to change?
 
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daydreamer40

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I think it is. I trust him to be loyal:)I suppose if he suddenly wanted to come around every couple of days I'd actually freak out as I too like to process things that have happened socially and enjoy solitude...for a while. Once a week is how it shall be! I think it has taken a long time to build up trust and for him to finally start opening up to me. Sometimes it seems we have to go through a lot of snakes to find contentment; I have been in really abusive situations where there was no fidelity, so it is refreshing to trust someone. In my 40s....a long wait! x
 
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I adore my partner, we have been seeing each other 7 years. I have aspergers, he has schizophrenia. He is very, very funny and we have more laughter in our time together than you could imagine. I am quite a romantic though, and crave for us to go out as a couple and do things together. I am aware that it probably will never be like this; our time together is in his abode, drinking beer! I am trying to accept that that is how it will be. He is on Olanzapine and that knocks him out and he works so hard so I don't want to pester him. He did say he loved me once and it made my heart dance, but it was related to something I'd given him as a gift! I wonder what relationships are like for anyone out here? I know I am going to have to rely on friends for emotional support as he can only cope with his own mind! And that's fine. I am just thankful when he is content as that makes me happy. I wonder if schizophrenia overlaps with aspergers as we have so many similarities...not liking crowds, going into our own worlds, taking metaphors literally : )
I have had the diagnosis of schizophrenia for 10 years. last week I was told I have aspergers which has been overshaowed by the schizophrenia. I was told that the schizophrenia was a by product of life with unrecognised aspergers.

Schizophrenia is said to be (one of) the most common misdiagnosis for people with aspergers.
 
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