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essentially if someone tells me i'm something let's say "really smart" i will believe it despite what my own opinion of myself is. basically i've noticed a pattern throughout my life that im VERY easily manipulated, and basically have no spine. i will listen to others because i trust their judgment more than mine, and hold them on a pedestal and feel disconnected from them. i have an appointment to see a psychiatrist in a few days but im wondering what this could possibly be? anyone else experience something similar?
 
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Sounds like codependency.
Is this how you feel?

"A codependent is someone who cannot function on their own and whose thinking and behavior is instead organized around another person, process, or substance. Many codependents place a lower priority on their own needs, while being excessively preoccupied with the needs of others."
 
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Thats usually just a sign of low self esteem. You should know who you are and be comfortable in that. Treat other peoples opinions as that, not facts.
 
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Sounds like codependency.
Is this how you feel?

"A codependent is someone who cannot function on their own and whose thinking and behavior is instead organized around another person, process, or substance. Many codependents place a lower priority on their own needs, while being excessively preoccupied with the needs of others."
Yes!! Is this common with bpd or schizophrenia. This exactly me, it's really frustrating
 
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I'm glad I could help. I'm suffering from depression, so I don't know the answers to your other questions.
 
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Thats usually just a sign of low self esteem. You should know who you are and be comfortable in that. Treat other peoples opinions as that, not facts.
It's easy to tell myself that but it's difficult to actually apply it. Like the background thought is that they're right, I'm wrong
 
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