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My mum has died

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Celtic Class

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My mum has died and I HAVE to deal with it.
The loving thoughts of a handful on here DO make a mark (they will know who they are xxx)

Now - on a more interesting vein - jeepers (what a surprise - not) my ugly big sister (Executor) thinks she has the right to run off with my mum's 3 rings (wedding ring still with mum- thank God)

My choice of hymns for My funeral will be -

Make me a Channel of your Peace
How Great Thou Art

I am not a true Christian - eclectic religious beliefs would be how I would self describe. Want to go on to do religious studies with OU this autumn.

This will not be a popular post - undestandably most want to talk about their illness. But life tries to go on - and death will come unexpectely, sorry
 
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Taff

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Offmyheid,
I am so very sorry about the passing of your mother and my condolences to you.
As for the wedding ring robbery, well, death bring the worst out in families, they all turn into vultures dont they?
I am sorry, I know its not the value but its the sentimental reasons for the rings. It happened to me too. Just another kick in the teeth to go with the others I know.
Best wishes to you, if thats ok , Taffy x
 
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BillFish

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So your a Scot with a tude eh ? No surprise there then.Look forward to showing my passport at the border when you finally have your own country back.Perhaps it will be an opportunity to smuggle in some English manners and decorum lol.:LOL:
 
Mandy2608

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Thinking of you x
 
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flowergirl

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Hi off
Im sorry about your mum I hope that you continue to find the strength to get through it all. I really like the channel of peace hymn.
Xxxx
 
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Celtic Class

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I don't want my country back - I believe the breaking down of barriers is best for all in the UK
 
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Hi .... I'm new here, What I do know is you are grieving your mother's death and that is a whole different kind of hurt. It takes time, allow yourself that. As for what your sister did, no it was not right, but she has to live with her own conscience .... fortunately you don't. The same thing happened to my X-husband when his mother died. His sister went through the house before we could get there to "help" go through things, she had taken everything she wanted. But, it was only "stuff" and the important thing was and is for you, the memories you have of your mother. Be nice to yourself while you heal .... allow yourself plenty of time.
By the way, I'm a Scot too. My whole maternal family were from Cape North, Cape Breton Island in Nova Scotia, Canada. They migrated from the Highlands with their 3 girls ... one of whom was my grandmother. They were MacPhersons. I belong to a Scottish Society here in my state and love it. I'm totally fascinated by all things Scottish.
Take care .....
abby
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Thinking of you on the loss of your mum. I cried for my mam the other day, the first time really since I lost her nearly 6 years ago. Once I began I could not stop. At the age of 56 I was crying and saying 'I want my mam'.

When my dad died last year I thought - 'well, there is only me and my two son's, so there will not be any 'vulture' behaviour going on' - wrong, wrong, wrong my youngest son turned into someone I would rather have not known. The shock of being very badly let down by him will stay in my memory always. The way he threw away the sentimental 'bits and bobs' that to me were precious and focused on only the value of things and the bank statements was so very hurtful.

So yes, the 'vultures' always come out when someone dies. I did challenge my son and he fell out with me - the truth does hurt. I would challenge your sister about her behaviour, if not now then soon as you feel you can. It will make you feel better. It was not the monetary value it was the sentimental value for me. I wanted the familiar things that I associated with my dad around me in the same way I have a few of my mam's bits and bobs. Sadly, my son had labelled them rubbish and took them to the tip without consulting me first.

Take care xx
 
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hi I am sory for you loss,

may your god be with you.


stan
 
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