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My in laws hate me and now i'm paranoid about what they think of me

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Paranoid011

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Hi,

I have Social Anxiety and sometimes hear negative voices or jeering type laughter out in public like someone picking on me.

I feel like I have offended my in laws, mainly my sister in law and my husband's stepdad, because they know i'm shy they know that I won't say something nasty back but I have become bitter and anxious around them because I think they hate me and hear negative voices that sound like their voices when I'm out somewhere. My husband said once that I should ask what their problem is with me, well if I wasn't shy I would.

I'm thinking of telling my husband that I can't go with him all the time to visit them as I get too anxious around them but I don't want to upset him as well but I feel like their behavior towards me is getting too much to handle. They don't seem to care much how their mean behavior affects others. My in laws use to be really nice now they just pretend to be nice to me around my husband and other people. Sorry for this long post.
 
Cazcat

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I think that if your husband has noted that they act badly towards you he should be dealing with this and having words with them himself. If it is more a case of paranoia then that gets more difficult to deal with with them. I have found that there is a mixture with my husband and my parents of them not getting along plus paranoia on my husband's part resulting in odd behaviour towards my parents that then alienates them further. It's a difficult one, but I've always made it clear that my husband comes first and I won't tolerate rude behaviour towards him.

I do think though that if visiting them is causing you distress you need to talk to your husband about him visiting them without you.
 
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I agree with Cazcat. Your husband knows your shy, and its his family. He should be asking them if there is a problem. If they treating you poorly, he should make it clear, you are his wife and they should treat you with respect.
 
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Paranoid011

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Hi,

Thanks for your posts. My husband has asked them in he past if they dislike me and they denied it but of course they would in front of him. Anyway i think i will just not bother going with my husband when he goes to see them. They are just too immature, they left a horrible message on my parents answer phone around the time a relative on my mums side who she was really close to passed away. So not forgiving them for that ever.
 
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