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My husband left me and our 4 kids for a MUCH younger woman

KarenP51

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My husband of 29 years (who I have 4 kids with) left me for a 18 yr old three months ago, my neighbour is still in contact with my husband and I found out last night that she was pregnant. I don’t know how to feel, I’m upset but at the same time I’m glad he’s gone. We were close throughout the 29 yrs, or so I thought, until he drastically lost weight out of worry because his career was in jeopardy and the girl who he worked with was the cause of it... they worked out their differences - fair enough - but he has managed to keep his job in the law firm due to the fact that he admitted to having a romantic attraction towards the girl (which was the 18 yr old). They have known each other for 4 years now and I guess she has everything I don’t... youth, fertility, adventure... but it hurts. Our eldest child is 27 years old... she’s p***ed off that his new woman is 9 years younger than her.
 
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I’m not quite sure I understand this, is his girlfriend 18 years old and they’ve been together 4 years.
 
KarenP51

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I’m not quite sure I understand this, is his girlfriend 18 years old and they’ve been together 4 years.
No, they’ve known each other for 4 years. She was a trainee and that’s when they got talking. But one day he just came home and said “I don’t love you anymore”. That was that
 
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Oh I understand. It’s seems as tho you were expecting it tho, had you been going thru a bad patch. I know it does hurt when the other is so much younger. And you feel as tho you can’t compete, but do you really want to. You family must be devastated tho.
Just think tho as your children are becoming independent he’s going to have to go thru it all again. The not being able to go out when you want without taking half the house with you. Start to get yourself out with your friends and start to socialise again. Don’t let it make you bitter as it’s only you that will suffer. I do think he’s going to find it hard trying to keep up to an 18year old.

My ex age 40 left me for a 19 year old. It only lasted six months and he was begging to come back. He had the cheek to think he was paying me a compliment by saying she looked just like I did at that age. !. Needless to say we divorced.
 
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How long ago did you split up?
just noticed it was 3 months ago, sorry. its still very raw for you, can you talk to your family, do you work? are you going out, the main thing is for you to have lots of support from family and friends, and here,
 
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The younger women never works out. Being pregnant though may have a bad effect on you husband. I am sure on your children too. I sure hope you are okay. I am sure your husband is going to go through a lot in the next 18 years. You can relax and enjoy your children. Grand children too...... Lots of love and hugs
 
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just noticed it was 3 months ago, sorry. its still very raw for you, can you talk to your family, do you work? are you going out, the main thing is for you to have lots of support from family and friends, and here,
Thank you. And yes I am a self employed interior decorator. I have close friends who were also friends with my husband back in high school and they were so shocked when they found out. I’m glad that I’ve got support on here x
 
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Hi I haven't got the hang of this yet, with getting emails, anyway i'm sure I will, so are you managing to concentrate at work, it took me forever to get over my husband, an yeah don't it hurt like hell. do you suffer from depression?
 
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@KarenP51 so sorry to hear this but it now lets you know what he was really like, it's hurtful as I've been there when I was 29 and he went with a women in her 50's, thank god for the divorce in 6mths.
Look at it the best you can from a positive few, you can move on with your life and I bet that relationship won't last long and with your children being older, he'll realise his mistake and try coming back because his kids are grown but to say I don't love you that's cruel :hug:
 
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