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My husband has left me because of depression

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Hi everyone im new here :)

My husband has been suffering from depression for quite a number of years, he has been taking medication for it and has had counselling.

We have a daughter who is 8 who has cerebral palsy, which makes our life quite stressful, but he has always said he would do anything for us and we are his world.

Last year he got made redundant from a very stressful job, after everything had calmed down he seemed to be happier that he was away from that job and he started a new job which he seemed to really like and enjoy. A few months later his father became terminally ill and passed away in January of this year. It has been an incredibly hard time for him and just recently he started to go and see a new counsellor which i found him, he got a lot from it and it bought back a lot of stuff from his past, but he appeared to be getting better and coming out of the other side. then two weeks ago we had a really big argument (i cant even remember what about) and he decided the next day he was leaving and wanted a divorce and was getting a new house etc..He has said i am the reason he has had to leave, he is not in love with me anymore and i have caused his depression. Its a really tough time for us as i still care for my daughter and work, he comes to see her twice a week but its as though he is scared to even look at me. The man i have stood by for 17 years, i'm not saying i am perfect i know i have done things wrong but im really struggling to make sense of all of this.

He wont even consider trying any kind of counselling together, he has just made his mind up and that's it.
 
Fairy Lucretia

Fairy Lucretia

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welcome
it must be hard to hear him say you caused his depression
im 99.9 per cent sure this isn't true sometimes when people are very low they don't think like they normally would and lash out especially at loved ones x

it is hard if he wont consider counselling I would say just try take one step at a time and things day by day
im sorry I can't be more helpful but I have never been in this position before and is hard to advise

im really pleased you have joined the forum for support ,you need to make sure you look after yourself too
lots of love Lu xxxxxx
 
sadpunchingbag

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man that must be tough though i can understand the extreme stress you both must be under i cant respect a person for just leaving a situation like that family is family when you have a kid that is priority 1 i hope you can meet someone else in :hug:
 
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