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I really dont think i can go on i lost my hubby under tragic circumstances which results in my depression, ive got sleepapnea,lumbar spondylitis, osteoarthritis, under active thyroid, lost hearing in left ear and yes ive been taken of the
sick im fit for work there is no way i can work i would love to so it seems ive got nothing left been stripped of all my dignity whats left for me
 

MarlieeB

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Welcome to the forum.

I hope you don't mind but I'm going to report your post to see whether it can get moved to a thread of it's own, just so you can get more attention and answers hopefully :)

Marliee x
 
SarahD

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Hello Sandra

Welcome to the forum. :welcome:

Firstly my condolences on your loss. It must be devastating to lose your husband in such a traumatic way. You may think about contacting Cruse who offer help and support in bereavement. They do individual counselling or support groups and you can just phone them to talk to someone who understands:

http://www.cruse.org.uk

Are you getting help for your depression?

You will find friendly support and advice here on the forum.

Did you know you can put in a new claim for ESA right away? It is worth getting advice on how to fill in the forms to properly explain your health problems in a way that shows the impact on your daily life and illustrates why you are not fit for work. There is a very good website called Benefits and Work. It costs about £19 a year to join, but is worth it. They have guides you can download that show you what kind of information to include on the claim forms and how to word it. They also have guides on how to appeal decisions.

http://www.benefitsandwork.co.uk

There are other helpful websites that are free, but that is the best. You may be able to find a benefits adviser through the local Citizens Advice Bureau.

You also need to get letters from doctors and/or specialists that support your diagnoses and if possible explain how they impact on you. The more support for your claim the better.

I know how hard it is to deal with claiming benefits, many of us on here go through it. Don't give up, you are likely to succeed if you keep trying.

Hope you enjoy the forum and find it useful.

Best wishes, Sarah
 
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Hi and welcome. Sorry to hear all that you are facing Sandra, and my condolences for the loss of your husband. Many of us have been in a place where it feels hard to know how to carry on. I hope you are able to post again and talk more about how things are, it's a good place for support and acceptance.
 
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