- Jan 23, 2021
My friend is 18 and wants to get pregnant. We just figured out she has BPD. It makes sense because she always didn't really act like me, someone who doesnt have BPD. She works a part time job at a store, doesnt even have a boyfriend and is constantly trying to talk to every boy she sees. I'm not shaming her for this as this most defiantly has something to do with her illness. She has a ED that constantly comes back and im scared for her. I don't think shes mentally stable to have a kid. She vapes and smokes weed while she's trying too. She said "having a baby will make me happy again". Sadly, I dont think this is true and I think she's trying to convince herself that it is true. I dont have BPD but I would really love some feedback on what I should do for her. I dont want her to abuse her children or end up on the wrong path. We're kids, we shouldnt be having kids ourselves. She loves partying and going out every night so I dont know why she would want that to change. It also doesn't help that her ex is encouraging her to have a baby with him bc they think they'll get back together when really, they're very toxic to each other. I hope I dont offend anyone here who has BPD since I dont know how it is to have that illness. I just want her to understand that this isnt okay.