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My Fiance's illness destroyed our relationship

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Ludoman

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Dublin
I feel I'm going through the usual breakup feelings which I've experienced before. They're just a lot stronger now as I wasnt given any reason and I thought this was the woman I was going to marry
 
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harsh-reality

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May 31, 2016
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England
I was told re one young woman I was very fond of for long time - was an intense friendship she was in a relationship - but for a variety of reasons me and her wasn't to be.

Having known a few women with bipolar she definitely appeared to me to have this condtion - top of the world one minute - new start - working hard - to next day everything was a problem including me...

If you stay contacting this lady your doubts , fears , worries will all remain but the one thing for certain this rollercoaster ride you both been on will still keep rolling on and on.


Its not her fault or yours but its a scenario that will not change ...


She not a bad woman and neither are you bad in anyways either but this is not going to work - I think you have had enough warning signals by now to know this is true.

I guess rebuild your trust in the human race - get out and be out there more and life will go the way it is destined to do so...

I was told by someone regarding my situation with young woman I knew - don't go looking for answers because you won't find any and that's the best advice I can give yourself right now also...
 
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harsh-reality

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you put a lot into this relationship - my one main relationship was a similar scenario - but I hope you can begin to live your life for the benefit of yourself right now - I felt so alone and bereft when women I engaged to - well it just crashed - it took time to regain myself but it will happen but yes please keep talking Ludoman if you getting suicidal thoughts - ring a helpline if your distress is extreme - offloading whether online or on the phone can be greatly beneficial - problem shared is problem halved etc...
 
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