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my father is violent & threatening to me

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Bambalina

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I am scared and full of anxiety at this present moment, my father just came into my house and tried to hit me with the back of his hand across my face because I stood up to him, I told him to leave my home and never come back...over a laptop. He lost his temper over the fact I have had his lap top for about 10days . He asked my son to update it and my son and I were busy today so it has not been done. My son is in the middle of updating the lap top and I tried to explain this to him but he blames me because it's not ready...it's not as if he needs it. He has another computer and he is retired.... I told him it would be ready tomorrow but he reacts by threatening me with violence and telling me he will have me sectioned because I am unstable.

I am scared of his threats and violence towards me.he always threatens me with money or violence but this new threat to have me locked up against my will I can't deal with it... He scared me to death.. I am in fear in my own home.
 
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He can't 'have you sectioned', he can ask them to assess you but believe you me, they don't section people only on the basis of a relative saying they need to be sectioned. If you are frightened and he has tried to assault you, please consider called the police. You don't deserve to be treated this way. It might be time to accept (even though I know it's hard) that perhaps maintaining a relationship with your father is not a positive thing in your life.
 
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Well this time you stood up to him and made him leave
He can't section you he can only ask for an assessment but would find it hard justifying it
It's your house and your rules and he can't come in and order you around or threaten you
So well done for standing up for yourself
Dita made some sense there as well
Maybe it's time to cut the apron strings so to speak and become at the very least I dependant from him???
 
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deadflowers

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He sounds pretty awful. I am guessing that he has always been like that with you sweetie??

You do have to stand up to him really, he should have never laid a finger on his daughter anyway but the fact he still thinks he can knock you about as a woman is a sign that he wont stop on his own and that you have to be the one that stops him.

I sorry that it's like that for you xxx
 
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Bambalina

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He sounds pretty awful. I am guessing that he has always been like that with you sweetie??

You do have to stand up to him really, he should have never laid a finger on his daughter anyway but the fact he still thinks he can knock you about as a woman is a sign that he wont stop on his own and that you have to be the one that stops him.

I sorry that it's like that for you xxx
he has always been violent toward me, I am small only 5ft and he either use violence scatcasm or psychological abuse towards me. I have told him to stay away from my house an d to stay away from me too. In the past I have changed my numbers but my mum is ill and she depends on him to look after her and my mum is close to me so if I want to see her then it's in there house.he is a violent bully and a control freak...
 
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Bambalina

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Well this time you stood up to him and made him leave
He can't section you he can only ask for an assessment but would find it hard justifying it
It's your house and your rules and he can't come in and order you around or threaten you
So well done for standing up for yourself
Dita made some sense there as well
Maybe it's time to cut the apron strings so to speak and become at the very least I dependant from him???
I am trying to become less financially depended on him, things are hard though with trying to move house and move to Dublin and with my mum in hospital, money is been spent on things I don't normally need to spend money on. But I am aware that I need to cut the cord financially.
 
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deadflowers

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I am sorry hunny. I would phone the police if he hits you again tho xx
 
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I am trying to become less financially depended on him, things are hard though with trying to move house and move to Dublin and with my mum in hospital, money is been spent on things I don't normally need to spend money on. But I am aware that I need to cut the cord financially.
The hardest thing ever is to stand up to someone close to you and you did that already .
Perhaps he thinks as he's always done it he feels he still can .
And until he knows that he can't he will keep trying .
It might end up a small war of wits getting him to see you as an individual instead of someone that he can manipulate . Keep at it
Do report him if it gets too heavy tho
Maybe that will make him think about his actions more
I know your in a difficult situation but sometimes you have to focus on you . And your wants needs ect
And some people have problems letting go .
It could be that he's worried about your mother as well and you are an easy target to vent on .
It's time he found out your not .
 
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