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My ex has basically offered and implied we will have sex tomorrow. She cheated on me but regretted her choice, and is basically implying if we meet tomorrow we will have sex.

I told her we will not, but I kind of doubt we will not.


This is so pathetic she cheated on me I should want nothing to do with her, but I am probably going to sleep with her tomorrow.
 
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I do know what you mean
im not sure that its a rule you have to leave someone
who has cheated on you
it might be a genuine mistake
unless it keeps happening

I cant do perfect relationships
and I will go round and round for as long as I want to
more importantly maybe
is whether there are any helpful conversations in the relationship

will there be any communication about why she cheated on you ?
how you felt about it ?
where both of you see this going ?

:grouphug: 🕯
 
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I do know what you mean
im not sure that its a rule you have to leave someone
who has cheated on you
it might be a genuine mistake
unless it keeps happening

I cant do perfect relationships
and I will go round and round for as long as I want to
more importantly maybe
is whether there are any helpful conversations in the relationship

will there be any communication about why she cheated on you ?
how you felt about it ?
where both of you see this going ?

:grouphug: 🕯
Bassically it was because she was horny she cheated on me I didn't mean to get involved with here again, but I find myself still attracted to her.

I told her we wouldn't have sex, but she has already offered to have sex and if she is persistent enough I fear I wont be able to deny her.
 
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k can you make arrangements to be somewhere else ?
go and stay with a friend ?
take yourself off to a different town for the day ?
 
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No the arrangements are already made and the agreement made I am seeing my ex
 
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you're not pathetic
that is the most important thing in this
whatever happens you are not pathetic
people do these things all the time
even if they dont have mental health issues

people with mental health issues
are always beating themselves up
for their normal human failings

how about saying something like
well before we have sex can we go to a coffee shop
and talk about things

maybe ask her why we are having sex today
 
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Hello513, ..then just have sex with her! If you loved her, youll e still want to. But, after its all done youlle be even more distraught and even angrier at yourself ! That's my opinion.
 
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Sometimes you need to go around and around like Zoe said before you know what to do. There is no right or wrong in what you chose to do. You're not pathetic you're clearly still feeling for her and in my opinion she is abusing that for her own gain however I don't know the full story. Does it hurt you she slept with someone else? Do you know what she wants from you and her?
 
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We had dinner and I took her home. We are still talking. I don't think I wanted to re engage any kind of physical relationship with her.
 
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Sorry you’re going through this. You need to think about what you want for yourself and what your heart is telling you. You’re not alone we are always here no matter what you do.

Sending hugs 🤗
 
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So like I am talking to my ex, and she was serious about having sex with me.

At first I was all on board as I still find her sexually attractive, but then she talked and she was hung up on the guy who dumped her (the guy she cheated on me with)

And that was like a major turn off so I was like nope not interested.
 
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so do you think you feel a bit stronger now then Hello ?
 
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so do you think you feel a bit stronger now then Hello ?
Yes I am actually giving her advice on how to deal with being dumped which is ironic.

I took her virginity so she is new to all of this.

I have nursing school she just lost her job, got kicked out of school, and got dumped.

So like ironically I am like trying to coach her through it, but hearing how hung up she is on this guy I am like nope no more sexual interest.
 
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