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my dad and sister x

Fairy Lucretia

Fairy Lucretia

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I feel so sad and want to cry a lot
my sister used to be beautiful and vibrant and outgoing
2 years ago she had a breakdown and lost her children ,she stayed with me for 3 months and it was hell
then I saw her for the first time in over a year on Saturday ,I couldn't believe how she was ,she was groggy spaced out and not my sister at all it seemed ,I cried so much when she left ,I cant describe to you how slow and zombie like she was

and my dad has dementia there is a past history of abuse so its hard to know what to feel toward him ,im so conflicted

people think my life is perfect because I have hermit now but I have loads going on
next year im going have to decide whether to get the breast cancer gene done or now and have to go for regular breast check ups as it runs in my family and I will be 40 and my mummy was 40 when she first had breast cancer

the grass isn't always greener xxx
 
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Sorry your having problems Lu. Yes non of us know what’s really going on in each other’s lives. We assume cos one things good everything else is perfect. I understand how you feel about your dad as i had that with my mum, but must admit the dementia changed her for the better , she became a gentler more vulnerable person so that made it easier to care for her but you cannot forget the past can you.

It must be worrying for you seeing the change in your sister. I dont know what happened but its obviously affected her deeply and all you can do is be there for her when she needs a shoulder.

As for the genetic testing thats something you may need advice on, personally i would want to be aware. Ive already had genetic testing for a blood condition i inherited, which caused my dad to lose both his legs, and am now waiting for the results of further testing to see if my balance problem is genetic as my mum had it.

I’m so glad you’ve got hermit tho to help you thru the difficult times. But don't bottle things up. Talking is good x
 
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