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my big brother

letmein

letmein

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my brother has dementia, early onset...... he's a little better than he was but since we found out i can't bring myself to speak to him.... i know its bad of me.... i'm scared of it... when he rings we speak, but i don't contact him any more......
 
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I understand that. I don’t always reach out to my grandparents because I fear they won’t be doing well. But you’ll feel really good once you do I’m sure. Just rip off the bandaid. He’s still your brother even if some things about him change. He’s still the same person inside.
 
Fairy Lucretia

Fairy Lucretia

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I get that my dad has mild dementia and I have struggled with my relationship with him for years
I had no contact with him for 8 years
I don't really know what to say except am here for you and you can message me anytime
love Lu xxx
 
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Pink1234

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my brother has dementia, early onset...... he's a little better than he was but since we found out i can't bring myself to speak to him.... i know its bad of me.... i'm scared of it... when he rings we speak, but i don't contact him any more......
I'm sorry to learn of your brother's diagnosis.

When a diagnosis of dementia is received the person with the dementia and the family can suffer a grief like response, called Anticipatory Grief, that is like a bereavement for a life lost - even though the person is still alive. You may be working through that - it's something I had to come to terms with when my wife was diagnosed a few years ago(also early onset).

The Alzheimer's Society produce a lot of useful factsheets about all aspects of dementia. The also produce a Dementia Guide and that can be read/printed if you click the 2nd line of the following link, if you feel like reading it

The dementia guide (872)
PDF printable version
 
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