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My aunt’s birthday is coming up and I don’t want to talk to her....

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khuang

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I’m still extremely angry and upset at my aunt for what she did to me when I was visiting her last December with my dad. She forced me to tell my dad that I was gay and every little detail of my life and ruined it completely for me. Now my dad is literally trying to force me to agree to letting him pay for a random girl from the countryside of China to marry me and refuses to accept that I don’t want it and keeps telling me that I no longer have a choice unless I find a girlfriend by myself by September and even then I can’t go the alternate route of finding a fake one because all of the single people in my area go to bars in the next major city beside us and my dad refuses to let me go there unless it is for a karate tournament. My aunt claimed this would “bring us closer together” but it completely ruined my entire life and now I can’t go anywhere that my dad doesn’t approve and I have to have friends he approves of and I have to act exactly how he wants me to act. My aunt reinforced the idea to him that “I’m just confused” and am not gay. I don’t want to talk to my aunt ever again. In fact I don’t even want to see her ever again! I want to cut her off completely because of this! I don’t need her and I don’t want to call her and wish her a happy birthday ever again. But my dad probably will make me and keep nagging me if I refuse until I give in like he always does. Honestly if he wasn’t my landlord and didn’t own my car and pay for the car insurance and gives me extra money to get by as thanks for giving up my own time to help him run the family business and almost everyone in the area didn’t know him and he wouldn’t make up stories about why he cut off my sister by saying she cut him off to make himself look good to others, I would have cut him off the minute we got home as well as my aunt. She continues to act like nothing happened and everything is fine when it is far from the truth and I won’t call her myself and so she keeps calling me to ask why and doesn’t seem to get the hint that I’m pretty upset with her and don’t want to talk with her. She also keeps using me as her messenger boy to tell my sister to call her when my sister keeps trying but our aunt never answers. I told my aunt that my sister tries to call and she never picks up and she acted clueless about it. My aunt has working fingers and isn’t a quadriplegic. If she wants to talk to my sister then she should call her herself! I think I will tell off my aunt and cut her off but not on her birthday out of respect although I think it’d be the perfect gift for her considering the fact that she ruined my whole life and doesn’t deserve to be my aunt anymore if I am to be honest.
 
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khuang

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I am considering cutting her off as soon as her birthday has passed. If my dad gets mad, so be it. It’s my life and I should be allowed to live it as I see fit. I’m sick of feeling like I have to do everything to please him.
 
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I am considering cutting her off as soon as her birthday has passed. If my dad gets mad, so be it. It’s my life and I should be allowed to live it as I see fit. I’m sick of feeling like I have to do everything to please him.
if you feel you need her out of your life, then best thing to do is kick her out of your life thats your right to do so :hug:

i kicked my own dad out of my life for being pure toxic :hug:
 
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The main reason I haven’t cut off my dad is because he is letting me stay in an apartment and the expenses for the place is something I can handle and still have money left over every month to survive.
 
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