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My anxiety just keeps getting worse :(

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banana8888

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I’ve always struggled with having anxiety but it just seems to be getting so much worse, I can’t even leave the house anymore without panicking, if I do go out which is rarely I can’t leave the house without being with somebody else because I feel something bad will happen to me like I will be kidnapped or something, I know that’s extreme to think that way I don’t know why I do I just do :( it’s having a bad affect on my life, I always cancel plans with friends as I don’t feel safe if I went out with them. I only feel safe going out with close family members but then I still feel something bad will happen to me. I just don’t know what’s wrong with me and why I feel like this constantly :(
 
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Have you talked to a doctor about this? You probably should.

Anxiety is tricky. The more you give into it, teh bigger a hold it gets on you. That is - every time anxiety keeps you from going out - it makes it harder to go out the next time. Anxiety is greedy, it want you all to itself.

Another thing about it is that it's a glitch in your flight or fight reflex. For some of us, we get caught in the threat recognition part, we keep looking for threats, and if we can't see one, we'll make one up to justify how we feel.

It has a physical and mental factor, and they play off each other. So - you feel nervous, which gets your mind working looking for the issue... that makes teh physical symptoms stronger, which messes up your thinking, and it bounces back and forth until you're a wreck. Your mind will remember what was happening when you felt anxious, and will trigger anxiety when that thing comes up again.

With me so far?

You can fix it, but it takes time, and work. CBT helps, it's a therapy that teaches you how to desensitize yourself to your anxiety triggers. For you, for example - you need to go out no matter how bad you feel about it. Make a goal, go out, don't come back until you've accomplished the goal. And you keep doing that until you don't feel anxious handling going out and doing that thing. It's hard - believe me, I know how you feel, but it works.

I'd pick something small. A woman in my CBT group had your issue. She started by just going over to the variety store to buy gum, or candy. That's it.

Don't overdo it, though - if you pick too stressful a task, it can backfire.

But talk to somebody - I'm just a guy on the site, lol. Look into CBT, I think it would be good for you
 
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banana8888

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Thank you so much for taking the time to reply, your advice has really helped me I appreciate it so much 💞☺
 
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Hiya
I went through a stage where I couldn’t leave the house as well. I did as suggested above and broke it down until it felt manageable although I needed smaller steps. To start with it was a case of simply opening my front door and standing in the doorway and that was all I could do. I used breathing exercises to help me and gradually built up the time in the doorway from 10 secs to 5 mins. Then I started to go out. It took time and patience and the progress wasn’t linear but it worked.
I second seeing a doctor. Anxiety can be helped through medication and therapy.
 
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