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My 19 y/o daughter who has no friends and it breaks my heart

Mom_To_Two_Too

Mom_To_Two_Too

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She has CPTSD, OCD and ED tendencies with high anxiety. We moved around a lot as she grew up and because of an unstable family life she had a hard time forming friendships along the way. She now has a boyfriend who lives with us but she has zero friends, not even a single girl friend. It breaks my heart because she's amazing.

She writes my on whatsapp and instagram all day long because she has no one else to write to. Her older sister, 29 (also lives at home) has a group of friends who she is always doing things with and writing to. Her sister complains every day about how badly her life sucks and I know it's hard on the younger one to hear that because her life actually does suck.

She goes to night school 3 times a week to try to get her high school diploma and she is in class with 1 other girl (older than her) and a bunch of guys. There are maybe 10 students total in her grade.

She is sweet and funny and nice and sensitive and kids (and adults--she was groomed online when she was 12-13) have always taken advantage of that. Because of her trauma and anxiety she doesn't stand up for herself. Because she has gotten burned I'm afraid she is scared of trying to make friends, but I know she wants them.

Can anyone else relate to what she is going through and maybe tell me it will get better for her?
 
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She has CPTSD, OCD and ED tendencies with high anxiety. We moved around a lot as she grew up and because of an unstable family life she had a hard time forming friendships along the way. She now has a boyfriend who lives with us but she has zero friends, not even a single girl friend. It breaks my heart because she's amazing.

She writes my on whatsapp and instagram all day long because she has no one else to write to. Her older sister, 29 (also lives at home) has a group of friends who she is always doing things with and writing to. Her sister complains every day about how badly her life sucks and I know it's hard on the younger one to hear that because her life actually does suck.

She goes to night school 3 times a week to try to get her high school diploma and she is in class with 1 other girl (older than her) and a bunch of guys. There are maybe 10 students total in her grade.

She is sweet and funny and nice and sensitive and kids (and adults--she was groomed online when she was 12-13) have always taken advantage of that. Because of her trauma and anxiety she doesn't stand up for herself. Because she has gotten burned I'm afraid she is scared of trying to make friends, but I know she wants them.

Can anyone else relate to what she is going through and maybe tell me it will get better for her?
I have 3 friends from childhood that I no longer see. The rest the people are circumstantial. Friends to go out and trust is zero. I am 32 now and I feel the need to belong. I am sorry about your daughter.
 
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Your daughter is still young and she has plenty of time to make friends. She is still a teenager it can be an awkward age and there is so much preasure on kids today. I think shes lucky you are looking out for her and care about her and she has her sister and boyfriend too. Msybe when she is finished her current class she might go to college and make friends there or she might try a new hobby and make friends that way or through work in the future
 
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