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KitKat
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At the moment I am living back at home with my parents, I am 24 and because I have done quite a lot of travelling since university I haven’t had the cash or the stable job to move out.
My mum has manic depression; however she has been free from any major episodes for at least two or so years. Mum is constantly worried and anxious though. I will finish work and be a little late coming home and Mum will be half way to the bus stop looking for me! When ever I call her she will answer as though she is expecting the worst and I’m in a gutter somewhere.
I feel that she has lost so much confidence with her life. She has a responsible job as a manager of an old peoples day centre, however she has no hobbies or any 'things' to enjoy so to keep her mind active and not worry so much.
My dad and I have made suggestions to her so many times to have ago at new activities and not to be scared. we are always there for her and try and support her. I have suggested to go and see a counsellor once a week, or go to a group but she won't?! She seems to give up so easily and I can't see her ever changing, which upsets me greatly.
I feel like I just can't be bother anymore with her, I am frustrated and pulling my hair out
We do get on really well and I think that because we are so close, we arguing so much. I just feel that she has let me down, and she just won’t give anything ago.
Dad says to me just to let her be and said that he feels the same but you can’t change people, which of course is true. Am I not being understanding? I just want to help her!
I just want mum have the confidence challenge and help herself?? Any thoughts, please help?!?
My mum has manic depression; however she has been free from any major episodes for at least two or so years. Mum is constantly worried and anxious though. I will finish work and be a little late coming home and Mum will be half way to the bus stop looking for me! When ever I call her she will answer as though she is expecting the worst and I’m in a gutter somewhere.
I feel that she has lost so much confidence with her life. She has a responsible job as a manager of an old peoples day centre, however she has no hobbies or any 'things' to enjoy so to keep her mind active and not worry so much.
My dad and I have made suggestions to her so many times to have ago at new activities and not to be scared. we are always there for her and try and support her. I have suggested to go and see a counsellor once a week, or go to a group but she won't?! She seems to give up so easily and I can't see her ever changing, which upsets me greatly.
I feel like I just can't be bother anymore with her, I am frustrated and pulling my hair out

We do get on really well and I think that because we are so close, we arguing so much. I just feel that she has let me down, and she just won’t give anything ago.
Dad says to me just to let her be and said that he feels the same but you can’t change people, which of course is true. Am I not being understanding? I just want to help her!
I just want mum have the confidence challenge and help herself?? Any thoughts, please help?!?