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Moving away and starting again

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starfish1991

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Hi there
So.... For about a year, I have put a lot of thought into moving about 170 miles away from home. I have tried so hard to sort my life out here and the issues I have, but it seems impossible.
I have absolutely nothing keeping me here any more, and I also would be better if financially. I guess for the first few months I would find it difficult but for all the right reasons I would wait that out.
I guess my questions are... Does anyone know any way of moving that far. Ie... His to find somewhere. Would I book.a trip there and find somewhere that way or is there other ways I would do it. Are there any charities that help with that kind of thing. I would be able to afford rent and deposit or what ever it is simply a case of finding somewhere.
I'm just so tired of being to fix something that is unable to change here.
 
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It can be scary that it can be that you are pushed into doing something like that, I've lived in the same city all my life - can't call a holiday living somewhere else -, but the thing is even being in a different area for only 9 days, I found you can adapt quickly, & people are pretty much the same, friendly, even the fact that I was in France (I'm English), had a McDonald's bars similar to where I live here, so I'm sure it'll be OK in that respect. Bit different with language, prices.

I would find it scary though if I had to live permanently in a different city for the rest of my life, no way London, you have to maybe think about is it similar to the town/city to where you are, I find that in the UK, it is quite difficult to find a suitable place, I found where I now through a letting agent, maybe contact a letting agent in the area where you are planning on going to.
 
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YellowButterfly

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Hi there
So.... For about a year, I have put a lot of thought into moving about 170 miles away from home. I have tried so hard to sort my life out here and the issues I have, but it seems impossible.
I have absolutely nothing keeping me here any more, and I also would be better if financially. I guess for the first few months I would find it difficult but for all the right reasons I would wait that out.
I guess my questions are... Does anyone know any way of moving that far. Ie... His to find somewhere. Would I book.a trip there and find somewhere that way or is there other ways I would do it. Are there any charities that help with that kind of thing. I would be able to afford rent and deposit or what ever it is simply a case of finding somewhere.
I'm just so tired of being to fix something that is unable to change here.
I know exactly how you feel, I sometimes want to do that myself, like I feel that my life has just become irreparable and I need a fresh start somewhere else. Because now for the most part my mindset is better, but my past mistakes have left me feeling overwhelmed. I would still ask tho, are you sure things aren't fixable?? Also charities I know of will sometimes actually help you with deposits or first months rent, so maybe you could do that and use the other money to travel and find a new beautiful place to restart. 💛
 
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starfish1991

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It can be scary that it can be that you are pushed into doing something like that, I've lived in the same city all my life - can't call a holiday living somewhere else -, but the thing is even being in a different area for only 9 days, I found you can adapt quickly, & people are pretty much the same, friendly, even the fact that I was in France (I'm English), had a McDonald's bars similar to where I live here, so I'm sure it'll be OK in that respect. Bit different with language, prices.

I would find it scary though if I had to live permanently in a different city for the rest of my life, no way London, you have to maybe think about is it similar to the town/city to where you are, I find that in the UK, it is quite difficult to find a suitable place, I found where I now through a letting agent, maybe contact a letting agent in the area where you are planning on going to.
Thank you for your reply. I don't even want it to be similar and I just want a new start so even if it is far different that would be great xxx

I know exactly how you feel, I sometimes want to do that myself, like I feel that my life has just become irreparable and I need a fresh start somewhere else. Because now for the most part my mindset is better, but my past mistakes have left me feeling overwhelmed. I would still ask tho, are you sure things aren't fixable?? Also charities I know of will sometimes actually help you with deposits or first months rent, so maybe you could do that and use the other money to travel and find a new beautiful place to restart. 💛
I wouldn't even no where to start with what charities to get in touch with. I wouldn't even know how to look for them. I know where I want to be in life and unfortunately that is anywhere but here and I know I need to get away to get a better chance at life. Thanks for your reply xxx
 
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Sarabi_Gyarados

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Hi OP
I think of that too, just starting over somewhere new. I think it can be great if for the right reasons, but also need to be sure that you are not trying to run from problems that will follow.
 
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Hi there
So.... For about a year, I have put a lot of thought into moving about 170 miles away from home. I have tried so hard to sort my life out here and the issues I have, but it seems impossible.
I have absolutely nothing keeping me here any more, and I also would be better if financially. I guess for the first few months I would find it difficult but for all the right reasons I would wait that out.
I guess my questions are... Does anyone know any way of moving that far. Ie... His to find somewhere. Would I book.a trip there and find somewhere that way or is there other ways I would do it. Are there any charities that help with that kind of thing. I would be able to afford rent and deposit or what ever it is simply a case of finding somewhere.
I'm just so tired of being to fix something that is unable to change here.
depends on your location your age,sexual orientation,gender, if you have any mental disabilities or physical you should look for help depending where you live in the section that will have your country to get people who have info on what services are available
 
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starfish1991

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Hi OP
I think of that too, just starting over somewhere new. I think it can be great if for the right reasons, but also need to be sure that you are not trying to run from problems that will follow.
The problems that I have are now a case of simply accepting them and moving on. The place I want to go to will sort the money issue straight away. It's just a case of finding how to do it. Thank you

depends on your location your age,sexual orientation,gender, if you have any mental disabilities or physical you should look for help depending where you live in the section that will have your country to get people who have info on what services are available
Would I be best asking my mental workers and doctors?
 
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The problems that I have are now a case of simply accepting them and moving on. The place I want to go to will sort the money issue straight away. It's just a case of finding how to do it. Thank you


Would I be best asking my mental workers and doctors?
No harm in trying say that your current living situation is huge part of your mental health problems they in theory if they care or are any good will help you ie get in contact with those people or tell you the avenues to go down that is what i am currently doing much love dude keep us updated
 
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starfish1991

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No harm in trying say that your current living situation is huge part of your mental health problems they in theory if they care or are any good will help you ie get in contact with those people or tell you the avenues to go down that is what i am currently doing much love dude keep us updated
Good luck to you. I wish you all the best and thank you for your help and comments
 
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Allyalz

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Ive moved several places over the years to areas i didnt know including countries. The lst move i did was 200 miles from where i was and i got accepted for a job. I took a trip down there and arranged to go see a load of houses and researched the area and how to commute to work, and also what was in the town etc.
Good luck and i hope it works out for you.
 
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