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Moved in recently and being given cold shoulder no reason

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Violetaparis

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When I moved recently my neighbour was friendly. I knocked on her door a few days later to discuss a problem with my pipework and she wasnt happy to be disturbed. Ever since she has spoken minimally to me and would avoid if she could. I dont know what her problem is but its making me anxious as I havent done anything. I dont want to approach her as she is obviously unapproachable. Any suggestions please I am very depressed.
 
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maybe she felt uncomfortable having a neighbour knock on her door?

how does she behave around other neighbours?

Welcome to the forum, we're happy to have you here :welcome:
 
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Tbh that initial friendliness must have just been her being polite she might just not like being bothered by neighbors. I am not a fan of social interaction myself and hate how neighbor relationships are kind of obligation and go out of my way to avoid them myself.

So to the point. It could just be your neighbors personality and not necessarily personal. Try not to overthink it. Try to meet some other neighbors.
 
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It could be many things, but most likely nothing to do with you.
I had a neighbour that all but harassed me once, banging on my door all the time for the few months we lived beside each other. I was in the bath and she was hammering on the door so i didn’t answer. Later on I was in bed with lights off, so it would have looked like no one was is and she was hammering on the door. She didn’t have anything to give me or me give her such as post etc. That’s just how she was.
Then when she moved I was wary of the new people who lived in even though they turned out to be very pleasant and like me liked to keep to themselves.

They could just be the type who like to keep to themselves anyway.
The could have anxiety themselves about answering the door and much more.

Seeing as you’ve done nothing wrong it’s nothing personal
 
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Did the pipes have anything to do with her property?
 
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Violetaparis

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maybe she felt uncomfortable having a neighbour knock on her door?

how does she behave around other neighbours?

Welcome to the forum, we're happy to have you here :welcome:
Thank you so much. Apparently they all say she is lovely? Not towards me though I think
 
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To be honest if it hadnt been for the initial pipe problem I would not have knocked. The only other time I did was to politely introduce myself and she was very friendly and chatty. Because I have anxiety I conjure up all sorts of problems in my head but she is definitely 100 per cent going out of her way to be hostile
 
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Sorry to hear she is being horrid on purpose, but at the end of the day the fault is on her as if all you did was talk about pipes, that extend to her properly, you’ve done nothing wrong.
 
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My pipes were faulty and partly in her property. Thank you all for your kind replies it means a lot to me
 
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