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Moody and depressed at weekends ?

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confused81

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Hi - I work Mon-Fri, 9-5. 2 kids + wife. In my adult life, for past 15 years, ive had 2 bouts of clinical depression, one was nearly the ended my life. Im now ok, i manage it really well with keeping fit.

During the week, im never really moody or depressed. I dont particular like my job, but dont hate it either. Come the weekend, i have my mood swing "episodes" where i can be very irritable, moody, and sometimes depressed. I find this bizarre, considering i love being at home with my family. Im wondering why this is happening. We tend not to do very much at weekends, other than the normal birthday parties, day to day stuff, weekend type things. Im wondering if the lack of structure or activity is a cause of this? I dont exercise at the weekend, im going to try fit it in at morning times.

My wife is at her wits end with this and suggested a split, but the kids are keeping us together. We love each other. But I need to sort this.

Can anyone relate to this at all? Whats your experience, how do you manage it ?

Thanks for reading :)
 
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jaketurnbull

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This might help....

Hi there. I am really sorry to hear about the problems you are having. I think there are possibly the separate issues that you are conflating, that are all contributing to your weekend unhappiness. Firstly, it's vital that you get your relationship with your partner on a firmer footing, and making time for the two of you, without kids, needs to be a part of that. It's not easy if you don't have a babysitter or someone who can step in, but you need to make regular weekend time to do fun things just the two of you. That might be something as simple as going out for a walk together, or even, if you can afford it, taking a whole weekend off for a city break. Secondly, absolutely, one helpful strategy for managing weekend depression is to draft up a rough schedule. It shouldn't be too ambitious or demanding. It might just be a combination of small tasks that you need to do but have been putting off. The key is to have a list that you can tick off, and keep, to look back on and "prove" to yourself that you have done something worthwhile. Maybe one of those things on your list could be "take partner out for a meal" or "go to cinema" for example. Thirdly, look at exercising at weekends but also diet and social activities. Contact old friends who you haven't spoken to for a while. If you drink alcohol, try cutting that out too, for at least 6 weeks, as for the first month, you're unlikely to feel the benefit.

These are all things I find has helped me, but that's just me. Everyone is different, so it might not be right for you. But good luck and hopefully at least one of those suggestions may help.
 
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Foxjo

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I too can get bad mood swings at the weekend and yes i know mine is down to lack of structure. During the week im at work and focused on that. At the weekends if i didnt plan anything i would just lounge around feeling sad and down and not do anything and sleep a lot.
its worth trying to change your routine if you can and plan more. Good luck
Hugs
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lucybrighton

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Mood swings on weekends sound odd but it looks like you function well when you have your day planned out. During weekends, apart from spending time with family, you could try a ton of things ranging from cooking, cleaning, trekking to even working on your hobby. Try making a list of things to do and stick to it. All the best!
 
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