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Gredge23

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I met my ex today we went for a lovely meal and cinema I gave her flowers bought her perfume and a card and wrote a letter to tell her how I feel , it did not work she said she wants to stay friends I will admit I was absolutely heart broken and burst into tears in front of her but she gave me a hug and said everything will be ok , so I now am putting my foot down and changing my life I'm gonna get a job or do a course stay away from alcohol and drugs stay away from my friends (all they do is drink and take drugs) and I'm going to start working out and trying to shift the pounds I gained from seroquel and zyprexa I think a few months of this and I will try to win her back again hopefully it will work as I need and want this women in my life for good
 
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Good for you . That's a brilliant attitude to have . Concentrate on your self for a while . Onwards and upwards.
 
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Thanks beergardenweather I'm going to change my life completely :)
 
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Sounds weird but I have been thinking about you and have been worried. Think it's coz I know exactly what you are going through. The meeting with my ex ended in him running off crying and that was the end of it . We both have BPD but I could never have done to him what he did to me.
I hope you can keep this positive attitude up, keep busy, make lots of plans. Travel if you can.
 
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If your ex doesn't love you then you can't make them love you. It's best to do what you need to do in order to be happy and healthy. If people can't love you as you are then maybe they're not right for you? I wouldn't know to be honest, but I'm not sure you can say 'I love you, now change' to someone. I'm not sure it works like that.
 
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I'm sorry it didn't work out how you wanted it to Gredge. :hug:

I hope you can take some comfort in the fact that she still wants to be friends, and therefore she will still be in your life, even if its not in the way you want.

It's good that you want to make some positive changes, just don't try to do too much at once and be gentle with yourself as you go along. Take each day as it comes and remember that you'll have good days and bad ones.

Let us know how you get on xx
 
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Consider if you still want to be friends with her. I couldn't be friends with my exes who I still had feeling for. I needed a clean break and it would have killed me when they moved on to someone else.
 
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Per Ardua Ad Astra

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Sorry it hasn't worked out, between you and your ex as you would have liked, Gredge :low:

But keeping away from drink, drugs and your friends if they do these things, and could influence you, is maybe a good idea if you think it is.

Concentrate on yourself for a bit. Please yourself for a while, cos you're a decent sort I reckon.

As another poster put it, onwards and upwards :)
 
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