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so just been to my doctor to ask to see a psychiatrist for a possible diagnosis and it didn't go well. he said that not only did he feel that I have no psychological disorder but that he also didn't feel that I had depression. :scratcheshead: I've attempted suicide, I take medication, I have had break downs and lost family and jobs because of this.

So anyway he's referred me but he seems to think that it will be for nothing. :mad:
Why am I even bothering to try to get people to take me seriously? :shrug:
 
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Hi,
Sorry you've experienced problems with your dr. I hope it helps talking about your worries. I don't understand your GP. Maybe the psychiatrist will be different, and diagnose you correctly. Try and see a different dr next time, if you can.
I hope things improve for you.
Take care
 
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Thank you. I understand that he was just being honest but he even admitted that he'd not even looked at my records or he'd have seen that I already take medication. I think it's the way that I smile and i'm quite articulate when speaking so people say that I present myself well and it makes them think there is nothing wrong with me. I don't get it at all. should I just behave like a bitch or something?

he said that it's unlikely I'll be taken seriously because they don't like to diagnose personality disorders. I'm confused and quite hurt by this but can only see what they say when they see me and hopefully will get some clarity.
 
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hi ,if it was your GP you saw i would not listen to them ,they in general know very little about mental illness
you say you have been referred which is good because the psychiatrist is trained in mental illness in ways that the gp isn't
please let us know how you get on with your appointment
love from fairy lu xx
 
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so just been to my doctor to ask to see a psychiatrist for a possible diagnosis and it didn't go well. he said that not only did he feel that I have no psychological disorder but that he also didn't feel that I had depression. :scratcheshead: I've attempted suicide, I take medication, I have had break downs and lost family and jobs because of this.

So anyway he's referred me but he seems to think that it will be for nothing. :mad:
Why am I even bothering to try to get people to take me seriously? :shrug:
Yeah, I know what you mean SittingInTheBackRow. Some of these so called 'doctors', I don't know. I'm sorry you were treated like that, I want to change my one too. We're not on the same page.
 
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Sorry your GP wasn't very helpful, but did eventually agree to make the referral. Do you think you have BPD and what do you expect from having a diagnosis? Hope you won't be waiting too long before seeing psychiatrist and he/she will be helpful. :hug: xxxxx
 
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mami- all I expect is that I have clarity. At the moment I'm down as having depression which doesn't explain my extreme moods, unstable past relationships, anger outbursts, chronic emptiness, black and white thinking. I could go on but basically it was only when I read about BPD that I instantly resonated with it. I know it's not an easy thing to manage but nobody takes me seriously or believes their is anything wrong, except for partner who has seen how I can be and is also convinced that it's more than depression. My mum has bi polar too.

All I want is for someone qualified to listen to me instead of people making judgment after 20 minutes of meeting me.
 
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I can totally relate to this. I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety for nearly 30 before finally been told last year that I have BPD. I even used to ask my OT if I had it, but he kept saying no.

I hope you do get a clearer diagnosis, whether BPD or not, and offered treatment to help you. I am currently doing DBT which will be followed with schema therapy.

I wish you all the luck with your assessment, hope it goes well for you, and remember to be honest and say exactly what's going on with you. :hug: xxxxx
 
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I'm glad you got the referral in the end. It took me a long time of telling my GP and the services that what I had was more than depression. I did have one GP on my side but she then quit.

Earlier this year I had issues with the Police. I didn't commit any crimes, I had a few welfare checks where during one of them they gave me the choice to go to hospital or be forced to. (I chose the first option) That is when they finally started to take me seriously and after a bit I got the dx of BPD.

Sometimes it takes a lot of patience and persistance to get them to listen. I also had to reveal some things I have never revealed before which beforehand I always refused to.

I have just finished a group therapy based on Emotional Intensity (Another name for BPD) which actually helped me get the dx which has given me so many skills and even though I do have relapses (I'm having one tonight in fact) they are wayyyyyyyy less common now.

As well as that I now take Quetiapine as a Mood Stablizer that does really help calm down the extreme swings I get.

I do hope that the referral works out and you start to get the help you want/need. x
 
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One word of warning; try not to self-diagnose. I did that and I was wrong.

Reading up on things on the internet can make you unconsciously go along with things that you may or may not have. Request a psychologist by all means, but go into it without "pre-meditation" if you will.
 
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I can totally relate to this. I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety for nearly 30 before finally been told last year that I have BPD. I even used to ask my OT if I had it, but he kept saying no.

I hope you do get a clearer diagnosis, whether BPD or not, and offered treatment to help you. I am currently doing DBT which will be followed with schema therapy.

I wish you all the luck with your assessment, hope it goes well for you, and remember to be honest and say exactly what's going on with you. :hug: xxxxx
thank you, it means a lot that i'm not alone in how i'm feeling xx
 
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One word of warning; try not to self-diagnose. I did that and I was wrong.

Reading up on things on the internet can make you unconsciously go along with things that you may or may not have. Request a psychologist by all means, but go into it without "pre-meditation" if you will.
I fully except that I may not have bpd but i'd rather a psychiatrist tell me that after hearing what I've been through. I totally get what you mean though thank you x
 
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