Mental Anguish of others a major trigger?

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Today, I was on the train, and there were no seats.
There was this old(er) woman stood with me in the section inbetween the carriages.
She was clearly very anxious and unsettled and kept looking around the corner to look at the seating situation and crouching down and leaning against her trolley/bag.

It was triggering me and I knew I needed to do something but it was like a literal hurricane of different emotions and responses, and I kinda felt like saying "Are you alright?" but I didn't know if I might just lunge at her or scream in her face.

It was only like 15 minutes but it felt like a decade.

Does anyone else get triggered by nervous people?

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It was very warm too, my glasses steamed up when I got on the train, so I know it was stuffy. lol

I was in Brum, Luc.
The station is super different, I dissociated a little and I felt really unsafe because I thought it was like a futuristic government checkpoint and I was a spy.

Today has been weird.
 
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im really sorry you went through that
dozens of hugs and cuddles
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what can you do to unwind?
maybe play a video game?
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Oh, I'm fine now. Thank you.

I've kinda goofed now, because I set out the topic of the thread in the original post but then started whinging about my day. :redface: haha
 
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That's really not nice. I hope your feeling better now.

Sometimes I find this can be a trigger, but I think it depends on circumstance and how I'm feeling. I once saw this girl crying and her friend was with her and I felt terrible cause I didn't know whether to try and help or if I was even capable of saying anything reassuring at that point.
 
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On the flipside do you ever get the opposite, where a situation brings out a overwhelming carefree and good turn?

Like sometimes when I'm in a shop and a mother is like "Sorry, I can't get you that. I don't have any money." I so want to be all like "I'll buy it for your son."
But I don't because:
A) They might think I'm a peadophile.
B) They could feel that a stranger treating them that way could reinforce a poor message about entitlement and it's better that they kid learns about disappointment.
 
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I was in Brum, Luc.
The station is super different, I dissociated a little and I felt really unsafe because I thought it was like a futuristic government checkpoint and I was a spy.
Yeah, New Street is weird now they've done it all up. It's massive and disorientating.... I didn't like it when i went there. I couldn't work out where i was in relation to how it used to be - and that bothers me.

Nervous / agitated people freak me out... completely. And the stupid thing is, I should 'get' it cos i'm like that sometimes. But i don't. It scares me.
People generally scare me.....
 
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I think I must be a bit of a "rescuer"... people in distress affect me quite differently.
I feel an overwhelming urge to help them and talk to them and my sons and husband often drag me away saying that it's not my place or it's inappropriate.
I always think that they are a bit inhumane for behaving like that.
I'd like to think that people would try to help me or reach out with a little human kindness if I was in distress.

No offence to those of you who are triggered by it...that's quite different to not caring....that's just protecting yourself when you recognise that you are vulnerable.
 
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oh Mr. B that must have bothered you, and you are lovely for being concerned like that. xx
In reality it was me, my secret is out, you see, my knicker elastic had broken and I couldnt move.:nod2:

When I worked, I used to travel a lot around the country and spent a lot of time on trains. Birmingham New Street I have spent too much of my life in. I had a great funny turn there many years ago, going up one of the escalators. Luckily someone was with me.
I do eccentric things on occasion. This particular day I was shouting brum brum brum all the way up the escalator. A combination of being tired, being in a crowd, being on a machine, thinking about engines and engine noises and being in Birmingham, Hence the shouts of Brum brum brum.:LOL:
Made perfect sense to me at the time. But I do recall quite a few people turning around on the escalator and looking at me. :) and looking worried but not sure what to do.

My escort took me for a burger and cuppa , bless them:redface:
I think it was not long afterwards that I gave up work....