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Fairy Lucretia

Fairy Lucretia

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so i have known her since i was 13 and she wants to meet up next week
i don't go out though well not to socialise and im scared of so many things

the list is too long to type
but some are

what if her husband is there? i don't want to meet a stranger
what if i get lost in the taxi
what if i have a panic attack

we have stayed in touch over the years by email and recently by phone

what if she has an affair with my bf :redface:

what if im going into the world which i haven't been part of for decades and people expect so many things from me

ugh
should i go or not? x
 
daffy

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Take each thing a step at a time. If she wants a catch up I doubt if shell bring her husband along. Why not phone her and ask her. If she says she is can you bring UH with you
2 that chances of getting lost in a taxi is nil. They all have sat nav
3 panic attack. Make sure you know mindfulness breathing . It really works. Remember shell prob be just as anxious as you
4 as you’ve been in touch by emai and phone you will know plenty about each other.
5 Think of things to talk about before you go. Remember people always like to talk about themselves
6 think sensiblyabout her having an affair. Would you want to have an affair with her husband? I dont think so. And I’m sure UH wouldnt even think about it so forget that

I think your trying to find excuses not to go. And i fully undersatand that anxiety can be crippling.

Just think that she may be thinking the same things and just as scared as you to meet up. Please just pluck up the courage to go ahead with it and it could open up a new avenue for you
 
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Playing the 'what if?' game is never a good idea. Unless they're actually dangerous or something, just go out there and have fun :)
 
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What is all those things happen? They COULD happen (at least to some extent). The skill is to be able to tolerate the thought they could happen (radical acceptance that things are often out of your control) and then to have solutions to the problems that could arise. That is ALL you can do.

If you live in the future you never life in the present. That is sad.
 
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So, I spent last week(end) in an AirBnB with two old friends -we haven't been in the same room together in 25 years.

So - there was a bit of anxiety on that, plus being away from my home for 5 days, plus, well, Marco is super high energy, and it's been ages since I've had to be that "on" for that long a period.

A super fine time was had by all. We accomplished much progress on the re-release of a game we published nearly 30 years ago. Playtesting, rules writing, miniature painting, background creation.

Yummy meals were cooked, we caught up on each other's lives...

It left me both tired and energized, and a bit sad we missed 20 years of hanging out.

I think you'll have an awesome time, Fairy.
 
Mayflower7

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I hope you have a lovely time if you decide to go.
We often stress about things but enjoy ourselves at the time.
Hugs
 
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