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Me and boyfriend both have mental health issues - is this a recipe for disaster?
Hi there - I have bi-polar II and BPD which means as you all know I'm pretty unstable I also have co-dependent tendancies at times which means I have poor boundaries - my boyfriend has social anxiety, agoraphobia, insomnia and his boundaries are incredibly rigid and fixed.
We fell for each other pretty much when we first met - there's something undefinable between us that I've never felt before - intense and deep. But when things are bad they are really bad - he's mean to me, I end up a mess physically and emotionally. It feels as though we're on a constant rollercoaster - we've broken up about half a dozen times but always get back together (we've only been together for a year), we don't live together and only really see each other at weekends but sometimes that feels too much - crazy eh?
He was on seroxat that made him crazy - he has come off it but that made him crazy as well - I empathise as I felt the frustration when I was on prozac.
Because of his Social Anxiety he has had to give up university - he was a mature student, hated his course, his tutors, his classmates and the university - over the last 6 weeks he has deteriorated from being able to go to uni and go other places to being trapped at home with agoraphobia, he lives with his mum who is neurotic. I work full time, sometimes it's hard but I have a really supportive team at work and am incredibly lucky that I live alone and have space whenever I want it.
I need to get my boundary issues sorted as he can push them down fairly easily, but I think we have something very special. Can it work if we're both sick?
Hi there - I have bi-polar II and BPD which means as you all know I'm pretty unstable I also have co-dependent tendancies at times which means I have poor boundaries - my boyfriend has social anxiety, agoraphobia, insomnia and his boundaries are incredibly rigid and fixed.
We fell for each other pretty much when we first met - there's something undefinable between us that I've never felt before - intense and deep. But when things are bad they are really bad - he's mean to me, I end up a mess physically and emotionally. It feels as though we're on a constant rollercoaster - we've broken up about half a dozen times but always get back together (we've only been together for a year), we don't live together and only really see each other at weekends but sometimes that feels too much - crazy eh?
He was on seroxat that made him crazy - he has come off it but that made him crazy as well - I empathise as I felt the frustration when I was on prozac.
Because of his Social Anxiety he has had to give up university - he was a mature student, hated his course, his tutors, his classmates and the university - over the last 6 weeks he has deteriorated from being able to go to uni and go other places to being trapped at home with agoraphobia, he lives with his mum who is neurotic. I work full time, sometimes it's hard but I have a really supportive team at work and am incredibly lucky that I live alone and have space whenever I want it.
I need to get my boundary issues sorted as he can push them down fairly easily, but I think we have something very special. Can it work if we're both sick?