Me and my wife have been together for almost 18 years. Since high school. She has never been one to change her situation for the better and her lack of motivation over the years drives me crazy. On top of that I feel that we as people have evolved over the years and are interested in different things, even sexually. A few years ago she cheated on me multipl e times and I just forgave her for all of it. And I went to counseling. She promised she would but never did. She never initates sex, ever. And I'm tired of doing it. We tried having threesome and had a blast a few times and she says she is ok with it but never works to put us in that position. Instead she flirts all night and is touchy feely with other women, then when I show an interest its a dead stop. I enjoyed dou g this and I felt we connected in a way we never have before and we were so close for months afterwards and now she insists I have a sex problem. I just believe I have a stronger desire. I have been to counseling for this as well but feel the same, and she still has not changed on any level. I lover her to death but at the same time I am starting to loose interest because she has no motivation and really has not changed on any level. And when I bring it up its always a fight and I end up just pushing it to the back of my mind and now I feel I am in a depressive state. Please help.