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Making life-changing decisions on small evidence

Kerome

Kerome

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I’ve come across a few autobiographical stories lately where people have made life changing decisions on very slim evidence... for example there was one lady who met an Indian man casually in Germany, and when he said he was going back to India she had a feeling she would go with him, and she sold her apartment and gave up her job, and she did! Later on she ended up with Osho in the communes.

Thinking about that kind of decision, I think it is very courageous to do something like that, to feel free enough to sell up and just go. In a way we are trapped by our visions of the future... if you think you have to make sure you have enough pension, get a girlfriend and start a family, work towards buying a house, care for your parents, all these things mean you are not truly free, you are caged by your expectations.

How many of you have ever made a decision like that?
 
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hongli

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I don't think I've ever had to make a decision on that scale before...

But there have been times when things got really tough between my girlfriend and me, and I felt really unsure of what my future would be with her, and I feel a strong urge to run away. But in those times, it's like I just had a sense that I needed to stay, that I couldn't simply run away, that I had to tackle the challenge that was in front of me and work out a remedy. I think I relate a little to what the woman may have felt, sometimes you just feel an invisible guidance and reassurance that allows you to enter a space of uncertainty with confidence and peace.

Have you had any experiences like that?
 
Kerome

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My life has so far been footloose and free... if I look at the times where I have had to make major decisions it has been down to my mind and inspiration. There have been maybe half a dozen turning points in my life where i’ve faced a major decision about what to do next, and each time I’ve reacted with my mind, not because of a sense of guidance I was feeling.

When I say reacted with my mind, I mean weighing up my own emotions, goals, connections to the world, my debts to the things I used to love.

But then I haven’t had a girlfriend or children to care for at these major junctions. That probably makes a major difference in the direction your life takes when considering these things.
 
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I've never followed through on huge life changing decisions, however if I had the finances for it I'd love to just get up and leave to another country. Idk if that's to do with my own issues and wanting to "escape" or whether I think I'd genuinely be happier elsewhere. It's definitely courageous but I think it's pretty important to think these things through
 
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