I’ve had issues with friends most of my adult life. At school I was just another average person, kinda shy but had a good group of friends and I played football so was left alone by the bullies so school life wasn’t bad. After school/college it became worse. I realised I had a form of social anxiety when I started working at 16. I made a few new friends at my first job (still in contact with some over 20 years later) but interacting with management figures and customers was hard. Also girls. It’s weird because 2 of my better friends are girls and there’s no problems there but other girls I always found it uncomfortable to talk to them. I think in my late teens I realised I was bisexual so it then became hard to talk to both sexes! I’ve had a few jobs since and my latest one means I spend half the time on my own which is great for me. I’ve tried the online route for about 15 years or so. I’ve met one great friend and I’d say about 5 who I still interact with on a lesser scale. I’ve joined many groups and forums over the years but I always try to present myself as a better version of me. I don’t really know why? When I do get to know someone, I either shy away or if they don’t reply often I question what I did? I guess I over analyse things.
I don’t know what advice to give that would benefit but I’d say maybe just present yourself as “you” and then hopefully likeminded people will find you? I’m still struggling with my lack of friends but in a strange way I prefer minimal contact with people lol! The mind is a hard thing to figure out
Fair enough, but he is a disagreeable git anyway.
