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Lost a friend today

Coreen

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My online friend said good bye forever this morning. He let me know that I had been too demanding lately. I guess I was just too clingy. But he and I saw each other every day for 4 years and just recently he decided to change things. I was just adjusting... asking questions. When he disappeared for 3 days, I was worried. I thought something happened to him. 4 years is a long time. And when he didn't respond to my messages this last time, I felt hurt. I guess that's my fault. Anyway, he had enough. He just left.

I feel shocked and hurt. I guess the relationship didn't mean that much to him. I never felt like he really acted like a true friend. Oh well. I tried to be a friend to someone.
 
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im sorry that must be really hard a similar thing happened to me but I realised I was better off without him after a while
as midnight says he might change his mind
lots of love Lu xxx
 
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That can be really upsetting when a person does that. It says more about his state of mind at the moment than you. Perhaps he isn't so well himself and wanted to back out of a lot of stuff. Try not to see it as you being in the wrong necessarily.
 
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Hi Coreen,

4 years is a long time of friendship..
Maybe you could give him some space for a while and see how you feel further on down the line.. And in the meantime, just take care of you and what you need to do in life at present.. xx
 
Coreen

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@TaurusLady hi! Yes, 4 years is a long time. Some space from the situation would help. But I don't know if he will reach out to me. He left my Discord server and defriended me. So I have no way to contact him. I don't know if he even has a way to contact me. Probably not. He never wanted to share emails. He was very paranoid.
 
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@TaurusLady hi! Yes, 4 years is a long time. Some space from the situation would help. But I don't know if he will reach out to me. He left my Discord server and defriended me. So I have no way to contact him. I don't know if he even has a way to contact me. Probably not. He never wanted to share emails. He was very paranoid.
his paranoia is not your fault :hug:
 
Coreen

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im sorry that must be really hard a similar thing happened to me but I realised I was better off without him after a while
as midnight says he might change his mind
lots of love Lu xxx
I'm sorry you went through something similar. I may be better off without him too. These past few months I felt hurt more often by things he did. To the point where I wanted to hurt myself. I don't need that in my life.
 
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I'm sorry you went through something similar. I may be better off without him too. These past few months I felt hurt more often by things he did. To the point where I wanted to hurt myself. I don't need that in my life.
personally i deleted my discord, couldnt use it :grouphug:

and nope you dont need that in your life :grouphug:
 
Coreen

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I feel a little bit better this afternoon. I took a nap and I chatted with one of my sisters. That helped a lot. I will try to get some food and take care of myself. I haven't been doing good self care today. Thanks so much for the support. All of you have been a huge help as well.
 
Coreen

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Why do my emotions switch so quickly? Now I'm very depressed. I tried to talk with my mom. That didn't go well. She doesn't seem to understand why I'm so upset. I don't know why I'm so upset. Maybe I need more sleep.
 
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hi! Yes, 4 years is a long time. Some space from the situation would help. But I don't know if he will reach out to me. He left my Discord server and defriended me. So I have no way to contact him. I don't know if he even has a way to contact me. Probably not. He never wanted to share emails. He was very paranoid.
Coreen sorry to hear this after being in touch for a solid four years, sometimes health issues can get some people down but i know you can't get in touch now, just wait out and you never know he may get back to you...sometimes distance gives a better offer.

We're always here for you and you have our 💞 :grouphug:
 
Coreen

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After some sleep and time to think about things, I feel like it's best that he is out of my life. It cleared up some negative energy and freed up space for better relationships. I am feeling much better today and my spirits are a little high, like, "Yay! I don't have that burden anymore." It wasn't all bad. I will miss being able to chat with him. And he had an interesting sense of humor.

Thanks everyone for all the support. :grouphug:
 
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