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misslonewolf95

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I feel lost. ive felt this way for a long time now. I have aniexty, depression & adhd. All unmedicated because i thought i could handle it all on my own, but its seeming like i cant. I am scheduled to see a psychologist next month but my hopes are low... Im writing on here today to see if maybe just mayyyybe theres someone out there whos like me.. my life is full of people who just dont seem to understand. My biggest problem with my mental health is my emotional/angry outburst as well as my depression. No matter the good in my life i just cant be happy and im always a ticking bomb ready to go off. I try to control it i really do but its like i don't have a filter.. it just happens and everyone around me seems to think its something i choose to do... like i wake in the morning wanting to be this way.. i dont. it effects every part of my life.. i lost many friends cause ive pushed them away... my boyfriend seems to think its all in my head and tells me things like "grow up" & " why are you like this" and much more similar things that just make me feel soo terrible about myself. Then turns around and "feels bad" for other people with mental illness which really hurts.... then ontop of that pushes me away because my emotions make him uncomfortable. the worst part about all that is i made sure he knew very well about my mental health before we dated and constantly tell him to leave if he cant handle it and he keeps claiming its not a problem although he drives me to some pretty big freakouts that i never experienced before him. Im so stuck in my head all of the time, and i feel so isolated and im hoping maybe theres someone out there that may have/had this same problen and could lead me in a better direction. Ive never reached out like this before and kinda scared.. but im loosing hope.
 
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indigo6

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hello misslonewolf
Im sorry but I dont know about aghd much I do know about d & a. I just wanted to say hi and dont lose hope, youre going to be getting some help. Once you are in their care, they will make a plan for you and things will start moving. It will take a bit of work and patience. Hang in, talk to everyone on here as well as distract yourself with the debates and chill out lounge :hug:
 
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JM2

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while you experienced someone death, you'll feel this just a simple little thing. Come on, hope you'll be back soon.
 
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sanrio01

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try to rant your hate via other ways not to people like breaking plates or whatever
 
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Smokey2

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I am in the same boat. I have anxiety, depression, adhd. I get where you're coming from except I have no one. Would love to talk
 
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Nyishiap

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I feel lost. ive felt this way for a long time now. I have aniexty, depression & adhd. All unmedicated because i thought i could handle it all on my own, but its seeming like i cant. I am scheduled to see a psychologist next month but my hopes are low... Im writing on here today to see if maybe just mayyyybe theres someone out there whos like me.. my life is full of people who just dont seem to understand. My biggest problem with my mental health is my emotional/angry outburst as well as my depression. No matter the good in my life i just cant be happy and im always a ticking bomb ready to go off. I try to control it i really do but its like i don't have a filter.. it just happens and everyone around me seems to think its something i choose to do... like i wake in the morning wanting to be this way.. i dont. it effects every part of my life.. i lost many friends cause ive pushed them away... my boyfriend seems to think its all in my head and tells me things like "grow up" & " why are you like this" and much more similar things that just make me feel soo terrible about myself. Then turns around and "feels bad" for other people with mental illness which really hurts.... then ontop of that pushes me away because my emotions make him uncomfortable. the worst part about all that is i made sure he knew very well about my mental health before we dated and constantly tell him to leave if he cant handle it and he keeps claiming its not a problem although he drives me to some pretty big freakouts that i never experienced before him. Im so stuck in my head all of the time, and i feel so isolated and im hoping maybe theres someone out there that may have/had this same problen and could lead me in a better direction. Ive never reached out like this before and kinda scared.. but im loosing hope.
Wow, reading this has totally gave me chills because I felt like all this is definitely me. Every last bit of this is me and I can relate because I’m going through the exact same thing til this day. It’s driving insane and I honestly don’t know wat to do or how to feel anymore. I feel like my faith and my hope is so gone 😔
 
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Rosieameira

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Hello! ☺ I used to be exactly like this! The anger is caused by the anxiety. It’s naturally protective because it feels better to feel angry than to feel afraid and powerless. When you have anxiety your kind of constantly afraid so little things can become big issues because it’s overwhelming because your already afraid and don’t feel like your in control.

When you don’t know what’s happening or something changes, you haven’t been able to process it and theres an increase in fear so you get angry as a response because your scared and it feels like you have more control when you’re angry. It’s only once things turn out okay you feel like you might have overreacted because your not scared anymore. It’s about changing your mindset through focusing on positives and letting yourself feel okay even if it seems silly to start thats only because your brains so used to operating from a place of fear.

If you can teach your brain how to feel grateful and proud even over little things it learns how to feel like things are okay and you are competent and from there you are not constantly operating from a mindset of stress or being afraid. When your operating from this mindset if something not planned happens or goes wrong or someone let’s you down it’s not overwhelming and you don’t take it so personally, it’s just something that’s happened and your more understanding and can work round it easier, your less likely to get angry. Once you get good at it you stop being so anxious in your day to day life and things get a bit easier. You brain stops running automatically from a mindset of fear everyday because you’ve taught it how to feel more positive emotions over unrelated little things. I used to keep a journal and would write things I could be grateful for and proud about every night and would reread it in the morning. They werent major exciting things they were just factual things my anxiety and depression couldn’t argue with. Now I don’t really get angry or feel like I can’t cope anymore because I taught my brain how to not feel constantly afraid, I can deal with a lot more stress because I’m not starting off from a mindset of constant fear.

Also make sure you are sleeping and eating right and maby try meditation when you are really stressed because it kind of brings you back to a neutral emotional state so you don’t feel so overwhelmed and can also help you to be just more calm in general so your mindset isn’t constant fear and being overwhelmed. I hope that helps! Read the book the mean reds it explains it all way better!
 
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Nyishiap

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Hello! ☺ I used to be exactly like this! The anger is caused by the anxiety. It’s naturally protective because it feels better to feel angry than to feel afraid and powerless. When you have anxiety your kind of constantly afraid so little things can become big issues because it’s overwhelming because your already afraid and don’t feel like your in control.

When you don’t know what’s happening or something changes, you haven’t been able to process it and theres an increase in fear so you get angry as a response because your scared and it feels like you have more control when you’re angry. It’s only once things turn out okay you feel like you might have overreacted because your not scared anymore. It’s about changing your mindset through focusing on positives and letting yourself feel okay even if it seems silly to start thats only because your brains so used to operating from a place of fear.

If you can teach your brain how to feel grateful and proud even over little things it learns how to feel like things are okay and you are competent and from there you are not constantly operating from a mindset of stress or being afraid. When your operating from this mindset if something not planned happens or goes wrong or someone let’s you down it’s not overwhelming and you don’t take it so personally, it’s just something that’s happened and your more understanding and can work round it easier, your less likely to get angry. Once you get good at it you stop being so anxious in your day to day life and things get a bit easier. You brain stops running automatically from a mindset of fear everyday because you’ve taught it how to feel more positive emotions over unrelated little things. I used to keep a journal and would write things I could be grateful for and proud about every night and would reread it in the morning. They werent major exciting things they were just factual things my anxiety and depression couldn’t argue with. Now I don’t really get angry or feel like I can’t cope anymore because I taught my brain how to not feel constantly afraid, I can deal with a lot more stress because I’m not starting off from a mindset of constant fear.

Also make sure you are sleeping and eating right and maby try meditation when you are really stressed because it kind of brings you back to a neutral emotional state so you don’t feel so overwhelmed and can also help you to be just more calm in general so your mindset isn’t constant fear and being overwhelmed. I hope that helps! Read the book the mean reds it explains it all way better!
you so much for your help. I been struggling with this for a long time and it just seems to get worse and it’s draining me
 
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