
trombone_babe
Well-known member
Well I think I've done it again, lost what I thought was a really good friend. OK we don't see each other in person now cos he's not playing in the band any more, but we've been chatting online for ages and he's been really supportive. If you've read my other posts you will know that I always seem to need a male confidant, I can't help myself, I get very emotionally involved with them, and I end up losing them by overloading them with total crap (except the last one that died of cancer
)
Anyway I've been deliberately trying to take pressure off him by sharing some stuff with other people, and especially on here (and that's been great
). I said that I wanted to meet up with him in person though to have a chat, but he sent me a text saying he was glad I'd been able to go elsewhere, and he can't cope with meeting me in person at the moment.
I've got to the stage where I'm wondering what's left in this friendship. Emotionally I'm very attached to him but he's clearly not interested (and I'm talking just as friends). He is a constant source of upset and frustration to me as I want so much more from him than I can reasonably ask, and what I do ask is being refused. I've let him very, very close to me and to cut ties will be extremely painful, but what's the point in dragging it out?
What do you guys out there think?

Anyway I've been deliberately trying to take pressure off him by sharing some stuff with other people, and especially on here (and that's been great

I've got to the stage where I'm wondering what's left in this friendship. Emotionally I'm very attached to him but he's clearly not interested (and I'm talking just as friends). He is a constant source of upset and frustration to me as I want so much more from him than I can reasonably ask, and what I do ask is being refused. I've let him very, very close to me and to cut ties will be extremely painful, but what's the point in dragging it out?
What do you guys out there think?