- Jun 13, 2016
If I am honest I think you are over-thinking this. When I see myself smiling in a really relaxed fashion I don't always like the reflection I see of myself (I'm not saying your natural smile is anything like mine and filming yourself might in itself disolve your worries/fears etc.), but the point I am making is people are far less judgemental than you might currently believe. If your concerns date back to your younger years when you were mixing with children etc. still trying to develop and find their way in life, be assured adults don't have the same mindsets. Most people are too wrapped up in their own issues to micro-criticise others, and most people have had knocks in life, which does humble them somewhat (perhaps you can relate)? In short people generally build pictures of others on the things that do matter, which very often comes down to someone's integrity. This is why things like honesty (with yourself and others), loyalty and having a genuine caring interest in others really counts. If you are respectful of others and can make them feel valued/accepted etc. you can't go far wrong. There are many other ways to connect with others, but hopefully this has been of some help.Yeah I agree, they do generally come from negative experiences in high school for me.
And I’ve heard the videotape yourself idea, I just haven’t gotten the motivation to try it yet. It does seem like it may be a good idea. It reminds me of a time recently when I was talking to a guy who was in his car and I was able to glance at my reflection in my window while we talked and I didn’t have a weird expression on even though I felt that I might have.
Part of me wonders if I can perfect a fake smile and fake laugh and the ability to do them whenever that I will feel more comfortable in social situations. It may take some practice though.