Long term drinking to cope with mental health. In need of help

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Hey guys,

Never done anything like this before but I urgently need some help or advice. I have had ongoing issues with my mental health for about 8 years. I am 25 now and I feel things getting worse and finding it increasingly hard to cope on my own.

I have tried speaking to my family and GP but I don't find them helpful. I am on antidepressants because suffer with anxiety and depression. I live alone and I drink alcohol every day for the past 5 years to block out my feelings. I am starting to worry about my health. I'm not sleeping and feel really ill every day. I am ashamed of my lifestyle and worried about my health but I have nobody to help me, I can't get counselling and I don't have a supportive family.

I feel like I will end up with serious health problems if I don't get some help. I am so alone with problems because my family are a bad influence. I have started occasionally taking cocaine in the last year and still drinking everyday. I am scared that I am going on a downward spiral. I really need to sort myself out but I have no self control with drink or drugs. Any reply would be gratefully appreciated.
 
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Hi @Musicandtvlover

You are not alone.

The fact you are realizing that there is a problem is the first step. I found the GP's attitude was "well your drinking what do you expect?" - not very helpful really. If possible get your GP to run blood tests to check your general health and health of your liver and kidneys - it will help to know where you stand physically.

There is no mirical cure unfortunately - many of us use/used alcohol (and other drugs) to self-medicate for our MH problems. Elsewhere on the forums I have promoted the benefits of talking to AA - dealing with the alcohol will show up the MH problems for real and hopefully then the GPs will take notice.

Have you a friend you could talk to?

Feel free to pm me if you want a natter.
 
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Hi there and welcome. I’m sorry that your gp is not much help. Have you asked for blood tests to see if your doing any damage because that way you may get help. I’ve no experience of the AA but have been told they can help if you do want to stop and that’s the main thing do you really want to stop drinking. Do you think you need to abstain totally or could you manage on a couple of drinks say twice a week and limit yourself to that

I wish I could be of more help but a lot of it will be down to your own will power

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AA is a great way to find support and be around people who are going through the same thing as you. There is no judgment, just people struggling helping others.

It may not be for you, but it’s a good place to start. Even if you go to get yourself out of the house and put some distance between the easy access of booze at home.

You don’t even have to speak, you can just go and listen.

You can find a meeting near you here: Alcoholics Anonymous - Great Britain
 
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Hi there mat here sorry to hear about all your problems your haveing I used to drink alot when I was younger I was always get nick by the police every Friday, Saturday me and me mates would go out as soon as the pubs where open and this was ever week end and a lot more during the week I had to stop as I was ending up in hospital being ill and I was spending alot of money on it so I reach out for help and support before it became a bigger problem I managed to slow the drinking down with help that's one thing you need . I hope this might help a bit
 
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Hey :)

The first step is to talk to your GP about wanting to stop and if there's any support they can offer you. The biggest factor in recovery in my opinion is discipline. You can have the most support from specialists, friends, family etc, but if you're not able to take back control of your life and be strict with yourself, your results will be limited. if your head and heart are really set on stopping drinking and taking drugs, you will discipline yourself and work extra hard. And you'll have to - drinking habitually changes your neurochemistry, so you're now working against your biology to reverse making these endemic changes. Will it be tough? Yes. Will you slip up? Most people do. The most important questions you have to ask yourself are these: Do you really want to change your behaviour? How much do you want to change your behaviour?x

Much love <3