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missunderstood9

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I'm so afraid that my anxious behaviour is going to push people away. I'm worried that obsessing over small things is going to make people think I'm crazy. I'm worried that people may be talking about me and judging me on what I've said/done. I'm also feeling on edge because my love life is a disaster, took a while to come to terms with a break up even though it was the right thing to do, and got blindsided by a ghost from the past reappearing. This did not help, and complicated matters. I've come to terms with the break up but the ghost from my past keeps appearing when I least expect it and it's knocking me for six. I'm afraid that they think less of me now too because of my reckless behaviour while I was going through a rough time. And I'm trying to mentally prepare myself and make myself stronger so that I can deal with the situation better. Because I feel pathetic when my anxiety flares up around him and I tend to avoid things that make me anxious, so I'm worried that I look childish/bitter because of this. I'm normally a laid back easy going person so it's hard dealing with this, I don't feel like me.
 
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If you want to get a better understanding of your behaviour and how to change the meaning that social interaction has for you I’d highly recommend you get a book by Gillian Butler called Overcoming Social Anxiety and Shyness.
 
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I'm so afraid that my anxious behaviour is going to push people away. I'm worried that obsessing over small things is going to make people think I'm crazy. I'm worried that people may be talking about me and judging me on what I've said/done. I'm also feeling on edge because my love life is a disaster, took a while to come to terms with a break up even though it was the right thing to do, and got blindsided by a ghost from the past reappearing. This did not help, and complicated matters. I've come to terms with the break up but the ghost from my past keeps appearing when I least expect it and it's knocking me for six. I'm afraid that they think less of me now too because of my reckless behaviour while I was going through a rough time. And I'm trying to mentally prepare myself and make myself stronger so that I can deal with the situation better. Because I feel pathetic when my anxiety flares up around him and I tend to avoid things that make me anxious, so I'm worried that I look childish/bitter because of this. I'm normally a laid back easy going person so it's hard dealing with this, I don't feel like me.
The fact is, people judge each other all the time; it's in the nature of the beast. Even if you were always cheerful and didn't have mental health issues, you could still end up on somebody's crazy/bad list. For example, I had a friend back in college who was detested by another mutual friend for smiling too much. I was amazed (in a bad way) when I found that out, and it just goes to show that sometimes you just can't win.

If your friends or family are calling you names like 'pathetic' or 'bitter' or 'childish', it's natural to do some soul-searching. But seriously, if after reflection, you realize you would not have said the same hateful things to them if they were the ones suffering, it's time to face the fact that they were fair-weather friends at best.
 
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