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Living with a partner with depression

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Macbook

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My partner has recently been diagnosed with severe depression and has been put on 200mg of Sertraline.its made a huge difference and he’s been on it for 9 weeks now.
He used to be so upset with a million little things a day and they’d send him under but now on a day to day basis he’s way more relaxed and tolerant but every 2 weeks he seems to have a huge anger meltdown about silly things. It’s as if instead of having a few little episodes everyday he’s having one huge one every 2 weeks. I’m not sure what’s better really.
He gets very angry, saying he wishes somebody would run me over, threatening to hit me, threatening to throw things at me, threatening to kill me etc. He never reacted this way before the medication and I was never scared to be around him but now I’ll have 2 great weeks and then a little thing will happen and I become afraid of his behaviour. He’s never done anything but he also never acted this way towards me before the diagnosis.
We’ve been together for 6 years and have 2 children.
Is this the medication or the depression?
Any answers welcome as I’m new to this “depression” thing! Tia xx
 
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LouiseMN

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My partner has recently been diagnosed with severe depression and has been put on 200mg of Sertraline.its made a huge difference and he’s been on it for 9 weeks now.
He used to be so upset with a million little things a day and they’d send him under but now on a day to day basis he’s way more relaxed and tolerant but every 2 weeks he seems to have a huge anger meltdown about silly things. It’s as if instead of having a few little episodes everyday he’s having one huge one every 2 weeks. I’m not sure what’s better really.
He gets very angry, saying he wishes somebody would run me over, threatening to hit me, threatening to throw things at me, threatening to kill me etc. He never reacted this way before the medication and I was never scared to be around him but now I’ll have 2 great weeks and then a little thing will happen and I become afraid of his behaviour. He’s never done anything but he also never acted this way towards me before the diagnosis.
We’ve been together for 6 years and have 2 children.
Is this the medication or the depression?
Any answers welcome as I’m new to this “depression” thing! Tia xx
Definitely has the wrong medication, on my opinion. There are conflicting stories about that med here, it doesn't always help. For me I was more depressed on zoloft.
 
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Macbook

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Thanks for your reply. What I can’t understand is that it has certainly made a difference to his depression and his moods but the anger has been made worse? Should I be thankful that I get 2 good weeks now (something that I didn’t have before) and just brace myself for the one big anger blast or do I risk him taking another medication that doesn’t really help with his depression but stops the anger??
 
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LouiseMN

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Thanks for your reply. What I can’t understand is that it has certainly made a difference to his depression and his moods but the anger has been made worse? Should I be thankful that I get 2 good weeks now (something that I didn’t have before) and just brace myself for the one big anger blast or do I risk him taking another medication that doesn’t really help with his depression but stops the anger??
I don't know. But usually there is quite a period of trial and error before the right combo IS found.
 
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Thank you so much for your reply! I’ll keep going for a while to see if things improve with him and if not I think I’ll have to discuss him trying a different type! Thanks again xx
 
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