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Needsupport

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I'm really struggling. I suffer from depression but usually manage to control it and make out I'm 'happy' however recent events have made me feel like everything is spiralling out of control.
I have been with my partner about a year and a half, he is good to me in the sense that he buys me lots of gifts and does lots for me however this comes with a catch.. I feel he is obsessed with me and he is subtly controlling. He is very possessive of my time and I feel extremely isolated from friends and family. I have recently been thinking of leaving him but due to the way he's made me feel I'm scared of what life will be like after... Will I manage?!
Also the other big problem is at the moment is that 2 days ago I discovered I am pregnant. He doesnt know and i have no intentions of telling him as he will persuade me to keep it. I already have a child from a previous relationship who I love with every piece of me! I have always said I'm anti-abortion but I don't know what else to do. If I have this child I will have this controlling obsessed man in my life forever... please someone give me advice or help me because I'm struggling to see a light at the end. I'm scared, emotional and tired. Please be nice as I'm looking for support not judgement.
 
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Twokiwisandabanana

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Hi there if you contact your local women's refuge they often offer support lines and groups you can go to
You can just ring and talk to them.
Abuse isn't just physical it's also mental, verbal psycological
 
Lilbubble

Lilbubble

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Hi and :welcome: to the forum

but due to the way he's made me feel I'm scared of what life will be like after... Will I manage?!
The answer to this is in your own post -
I suffer from depression but usually manage to control it and make out I'm 'happy'
So with the support you need and being strong this is how you'll cope once he isn't around, same as you did 18 months ago, prior to this possessive and controlling man coming into your life and somewhat blurring your mind with materialistic gifts and gestures, killing you with kindness is what that is and its often how controlling behaviour starts ....He's nice to you so you don't want to rock the boat and be seen as ungrateful now do you ?? ..... However he takes that for granted so he can manipulate you.

I suspect there are many people who have been anti abortion until the find themselves in the position of actually making a decision on the matter, Which ever way you decided to go here it'll be the right decision so long as you make it with your own and the child you have already best interests at heart.


Stay strong put yourself and your little one first.

Happy to chat if you'd like to message me

Bubs x
 
Drooo

Drooo

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It sounds like you know what you want to do in both respects, but you just need to the confidence and courage to go through with them.

I'm against the blasé abortions but in these kinds of circumstances it is completely understandable. You don't want him and you don't want a baby with him. Get out and make yourself happy otherwise you'll like be miserable for the rest of your days.
 
starrynite

starrynite

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Check out heartlink.org. They can give you help and advice.
 
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