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Life is really getting me down

danielgain

danielgain

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Mar 10, 2018
Messages
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Hello everyone sorry i have not posted in a long time

I have been suffering rather bad latlly with my depression i have lost my job about 3 months ago for asking out a female colleague for a drink,whats worst i was made to feel like scum its just im so lonley on my own i just asked her for a drink after work she reported me eventually i was sacked another recent thing was the amount of people that kept my life going was at work i am now on benefits struglling to live and pay my rent i live with my dad he adds it up every week and expects me to pay it i have helped him do some work on the house( all of last week)he never even knocked the rent down he knows i can't afford to live but he don't care not even one bit to be honest i don't care about myself ethier I'm a jobless failure,I was supposed to go though a gender transition 2 years ago but guess what family blackmailed me and 1 week before my surgery it was off due to family,I work my ass of for people doing everything my mother bullies me verbally,blackmails me and my dad is more concerned about money , than me despite the loft conversion and a new car

I just am really struglling ,I wanna be loved and have friends but its a no show for a loser like me

Dan
 
Valka

Valka

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Feb 12, 2019
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Location
England (NW)
Hi there and welcome.
You were fired for asking a girl out for a drink? On what grounds?
It's hardly harassment if you just asked her the once and she said no. That's really weird. You should see what you can do about that in regards to unfair dismissal.

I'm sorry to hear your transition didn't go through. What your family did wasn't fair with that. :hug:
 
danielgain

danielgain

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Thank-you Valka no I was on a zero hours contract that lasted 5 years every week I had work until this event I think it was a excuse to fire me I also had a mental breakdown at work a few months prior witch properly did not help as I just went nuts crying,shouting just so hard sometimes,they also knew that I was Feeling suicidal on and off when work got wind of my depression,suicidal thoughts,plus my other issues I was Facing they just did not understand I was encouraged to walk with the nurse to the dept of physiology However I refused and was let free as I never went through with the suicide,Thou It was on my mind ,I don't feel that bad now as that incident was some time ago.Its funny that I actually worked In a NHS Hospital,I had other staff being rude and swearing at me for wanting to be a girl ,When I look back I think ,How the hell did I take that ,I must of had a iron body,I was strong while I was Victoria I always fresh and clean and I took my time to be as feminine every day with hair make up and my nails I Loved it that was the true me ,Even thou I was thrown out of my parents house ,I settled in a caravan on a farm for 2 years then they accepted me back ,But I never found out thier real motives for this until they sat down and filled my brain about how wrong it was to change gender,I felt pushed and more alone than ever But on January 2018 I legally became male again their plan had worked part of me now realizes that its so easy to be brainwashed ,Even thou I was living in a caravan on a farm It was not lonley and isolated I had make up parties with the girls going out getting hammered with all the girls from my work ,Everyone was nice too except my parents and that Is what hurts ,I like guys and girls ,but mainly girls as their normally very reassuring and understanding I'm glad I rejoined here I hope I can meet some new folks


Daniel
 
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PrincessJasmine

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Feb 19, 2019
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Location
UK
That's awful what happened with your job. I think you could be right sadly, a lot of people do look for excuses to get rid of people who don't 'fit'. I've only done voluntary jobs but I was disliked as I got on with my work instead of chatting. But I don't really know how to chat. In the end they always frightened me away. You certainly didn't do anything wrong asking someone for a drink or having the breakdown.

Parents can be so controlling and difficult, it's so wrong. While they're entitled to their opinions (which I strongly disagree with) you are entitled to be Victoria if that's who you are. My parents have always been very focused on what people think of them and the image they want to portray and hated the fact I didn't fit in with that. Their image is more important to them than what I want and need. Is there any chance you could go back to your old life where you were happy? You got away from them once... but I know it's not that simple.

I don't know what to say but I do really feel for you.
 
danielgain

danielgain

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Mar 10, 2018
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Maybe one-day when the time is right thanks for your comment I'm going to the GP tomorrow to see if he can change my prescription I have been on citlopram but now I'm on Setraline 150mg witch does work just not that great I'm also on Ampalatrine I'm not great at spelling please forgive me

Thanks so much for your comment

Daniel x
 
Mayflower7

Mayflower7

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Jan 4, 2013
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Location
England
Hi Dan,
Sorry to hear your struggling, glad your seeing your dr. Do let us know how you are from time to time.
Might it be cheaper getting housing benefit and renting?
So sorry about your transition, ultimately it is your decision not your families.
Here to listen anytime.
Take care
 
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