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Letter to your younger self

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What would you write in a letter to your younger self ? What warnings would you give ? What advice would you give ?
 
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Dear Sen

There is going to be a lot of upheaval in your life,Don't let it turn you into a bitter anti social person because it's not worth it.People will come and go,But don't that make you believe that everyone is the same and that they really don't care about you.Don't place too much faith in people online either because you will expect far too much from them and it will all end in tears.You really need to keep away from certain people and don't let yourself get rapped up in their B.S They are not who they claim to be and they don't have your best interest at heart either.

Keep more things private and don't be so open and honest with people,It WILL lead to a lot of really bad situations that you really cannot cope with.AVOID that goth site at all costs,You will meet your horrible ex boyfriend and he will play nothing but mind games with you.You ex will manipulate you,put you down and make your life hell for many months to come.While you're at it Sen,AVOID Roger to because he is really just out to use you to,He's not some knight in shining armour like you thought he was.

Don't allow yourself to be bullied into a relationship by Adam either,He's exactly like your ex and that's something you can really do without.Don't let people walk all over you,Don't like them make you believe that you deserve their horrible treatment and don't let them make you believe that you're a horrible monster.Sometimes it's better to have no friends and no boyfriend,Rather than being treated like You're less than dirt.
 
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I have a lot of advice to give myself.
 
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Some people are trustworthy. But you have to find them and take your time.

To myself I would try and warm about the mental health issues and try to educate myself about what would happen and how I should try and stay healthy.

I would advise my younger self not to do uni at such a young age and work first, then do uni.

I wonder what my future self would say to myself, now.....hmmm, that's a scary thought. Because I am sure I have mistakes to make.
 
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3 square meals a day. No snacks.
 
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There is nothing wrong with making mistakes,You just have to learn from them because that's the important thing.
 
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If a voice tells you someone is a witch then they may not be a witch. Goodness knows why there is a voice telling me that someone is a witch but you don't have to believe it. But of course you will choose to believe it, won't you.
 
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Dear me,

Please don't join cyber school, all it will do is cause you to be more antisocial. Just be upfront about your medical problems and ask for help, please just don't be shy. Do not listen to your stepfather, he is not a good influence. Good luck!!
 
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Dear Izera;

Parents screw up. Make far, far more noise about your internal hurts. Maybe you'll be diagnosed and treated faster. And keep a note of who that therapist was that the school sent you to, so you can sue him for malpractice for saying you had a bad case of "being a teenager".

You will save yourself a lot of hurt if you don't get a crush on every guy who looks nice or acts nice. Everyone thinks you're weird, so no you won't have a boyfriend in school, so don't even bother with feelings. Do what the other girls do and get crushes on George Michael and Matthew Broderick. They don't know you so they can't hurt your feelings.

While you're at the being loud about your emotional hurts, mention ADHD as well. Maybe you'll actually stick with college instead of dropping out and never going back.

Don't be so jealous. There's no need to be. The more relaxed you are, the more secure the guy is, and there's less problems.

Don't threaten and attempt suicide. The beauty of bipolar is that shifting phases is inevitable. You're not going to be depressed forever.

When you meet the ex, bang him long enough for the kid but then get the hell away and don't get emotionally involved. He has way too many mommy issues and you don't need to be his replacement mommy.

Treat the current guy like gold the entire time, not just when you've matured enough 10 years into the relationship. He's a good guy, and honestly, he's not out to hurt you. That's just the mild PTSD from the extreme bullying rearing its head.

And don't throw that stapler at work. Just don't. It may be forgiven, but it will never, ever be forgotten.
 
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Dear Izera;

PS - Don't change your name when you get married. Sharing both a first name and a last name with your mother-in-law is going to lead to a lifetime of confusion and difficulty and just plain pain in the ass stuff.
 
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I am not sure if I would change history. I do have regrets, but are they not part of the experience of life. Whatever I could tell him, would not make him wiser, or more mature, only experience can do that. Try to steer him clear of becoming psychotic, but I am not sure how? Maybe it was the way it meant to be.

Perhaps I would have liked to have been married young, say 21, but the opportunity did not arise. It would have taken maturity that I did not have then. Sure I could tell him to have gone to a different university, but really my uni days were as fun as they were traumatic.
 
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Dear Sen

You are going to struggle a lot in life and you will get badly hurt by people,Don't hold you emotions in because it will make you health far worse.Don't place so much trust and faith in K,He's not the person you hoped he was and he really doesn't care.Just because K has stomach problems doesn't really mean anything,It's not some sign that he's supposed to be in your life and it's not some sign that you were destined to meet either.

You will lose the only person close to you that you thought of as a little brother,But remember it was his choice to leave and not yours.You cannot force someone to be a part of your life and you cannot force someone to care about you either.It WILL hurt and you WILL feel an absolute sense of loss but don't email him.You have to go your separate ways and maybe that's for the best,Even if you don't think it is right now.
 
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