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afoure27

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Hi, Im new today, my girlfriend suffers from chronic depression, and so i need guidance and help to live with her mood swings and her acts of self destruction in her private life. Any help will be gratefully recieved. :scared::cry::redface:
 
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Hi Afoure :welcome: to the forum where you will find us friendly, fun and supportive. We have a special area for carers, friend and relatives. You're not confined to there of course! Join in or start a thread down in the main body of the forum and people will join you. :tea:
 
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Hey there Afoure, welcome. No quick fixes I'm afraid, but we are here to offer support to people with conditions similar to ours and of course those people that support them...

:welcome:
 
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Thanks for the welcome and your warm words. No, there will be no quick fixes I know that but I am torn up when I see someone in such agony of mind and confusion and I can see that the drugs are doing nothing whatever to help. As a child she was abused (not in a sexual way) and it has continued into adulthood. As I say, drugs are doing nothing, but what else is there?
 
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How long has she been taking the medication and what is it? It takes time for medication medication to build up in the system and not everybody gets the right medication first time. You say that your girlfriends depression is chronic but how severe does the doctor think it is? :hug:
 
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She has had a number of consultants over the years and a number of drugs, currently she is on Mirtazapine. before that Reboxitin and before that Prozac and gooness knows what else. She is very susceptible to side effects of the drugs. I am also her carer.
 
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Have you discussed the idea of a mood stabiliser as opposed to an anti depressant. Some people (me among them) can be medication resistant when it comes to treating depression. I take a mood stabiliser because I'm bipolar but it does make my lows more manageable when they do happen. I see you're in Bristol too.
 
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discuss who with? The consultants wont have me in the same room
 
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Have you aske why the consultant wont let you in. They normally like to speak to someone else who is closeto get a better picture. I dont particularly like it when my sister come in with me but she makes me tell the truth , cos otherwise i would just say 'im fine' and run out of the hospital.

My sister doesnt stay in all the time with me cos sometimes i want to speak for myself about things i dont want my family to know.

I would suggest next time she see the psych ask if you can go in for 5 mins cos theres a couple of things youd like to ask.

Is your girlfriend working and does she cope with that, does she socialise

Im sure things will soon start to pick up. But there usually someone to have a natter ith

Good luck oh and:welcome:
 
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Daffy's right about being in on a consultation even for 5 minutes. My consultant sometimes asks if I can bring someone along (usually if I'm becoming unstable) so that he can have another perspective. Your girlfriend can ask for you to be present for at least part of the consultation. What about her GP - will (s)he let you in at appointments?
 
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Hello and :welcome: afoure27

Hope you find lots of support here, we are a friendly bunch :)
 
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Hello afoure27

:welcome: to the forum, a great place for finding advice and support,
 
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Good morning afoure27
How's things?
 
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:welcome: afoure27

hope you get the help you need

I will definetely try to help if I can

everyone is friendly on here

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Have you aske why the consultant wont let you in. They normally like to speak to someone else who is closeto get a better picture. I dont particularly like it when my sister come in with me but she makes me tell the truth , cos otherwise i would just say 'im fine' and run out of the hospital.

My sister doesnt stay in all the time with me cos sometimes i want to speak for myself about things i dont want my family to know.

I would suggest next time she see the psych ask if you can go in for 5 mins cos theres a couple of things youd like to ask.

Is your girlfriend working and does she cope with that, does she socialise

Im sure things will soon start to pick up. But there usually someone to have a natter ith

Good luck oh and:welcome:
Some 8weeks or so ago, I was so alarmed that I phoned the consultant for an emergency appointment, he was not there, but spoke to a cpn. an apointment was recieved for 3 weeks away (so much for a sense of urgency). I went along and explained what cecily had not told them of her outlook and her self destructiveness and of her background history. He wrote for an URGENT psychotherapy course. At the next consultation I went with her, but after 2 mins was asked to leave. She has no cpn as where she lives you only get a cpn if you are judged to be a danger to yourself or others. So who the hell do I talk to. I cannot and will not walk away from her. She deserves better than that
:mad::evil: and :love:

p.s. She has now been told that the waiting list for pschotherapy has gone over 12months and has now been closed. She is condemned to an indeterminate time of living hell and to make matters worse has received a letter telling her to attend a back to work interview.

In my view this is legalised state murder by a so called welfare state
 
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