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Just need to tell someone I think



New member
Sep 5, 2018
Hello everyone 🙂

I guess I just need to tell someone. I don't know what to do. For the last few years the urge to self harm was bigger and bigger and I managed to deal with it, but I don't know what to do anymore.

I guess part of the urge to do it is a need to have a physical proof of how bad I am now to justify seeking help, but even if it's true it doesn't make my urge to do so any less real.

I guess I'm in a strange place right now and don't really know what I feel and don't know what to do. Thank you for reading, have a nice day 🙂


Well-known member
Apr 24, 2017
Hi cinary,


Sorry to hear how you're feeling. Self-harm might feel like relief, but it causes more pain and sadness for the days and weeks ahead. I know it can feel like a confusing time. What's important now is that you choose the best option for your future - self harm won't help you recover, whereas seeking help and working to improve your mental wellbeing will! You have the power to choose whether you recover or not - it's up to you to make that first step!x

Have you seen a GP about how you're feeling?x

Much love <3


:welcome: to the forum. Please seek help. Please don't self harm. :hug:


New member
Sep 10, 2018
I understand your struggle first hand. Among other reasons, I felt that having the scars would prove I truly was hurting. But as an overcomer, I see my scars now and it saddens me that I chose to "help" myself vs. truly seeking help. Now, years later, I'm constantly thinking about how I'm going to cover them up. In the moment I understand it makes the most sense. But once it's done it can't be undone and we are forever reminded of it. The pain only intensifies. Please understand that you are worth so much more. You are worth the love and help you feel can't reach you.