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So here it goes.
I'm new here but needed to speak to people that maybe understand.

Everything was " normal" shall we call it.. as normal as someones life could be.
I lived at home with my parents and then my dad fell Ill to cancer and sadly passed away around 5 years ago now.
The short end of the story.. I got kicked out and moved in with my bf. The only place I had to go..

I lost everything.. my home my family all in a short period of time.

Every relationship has its ups and downs but my boyfriend uses the fact that he knows I have no where to go as a way of bullying me.
And it's not "his fault I have no family or anywhere to go" his words exactly. And he used it against me when he goes out clubbing/ with his mates. And just leaves me at home as If I ever say anything he says pack your bags and go. I'll put all your things outside.
Within the last year too I fell pregnant. To which he wasnt happy with and made me get rid.
I had to go alone to the abortion as he has plans with his friends...
I know I'll just get called stupid or leave but I cant
I have no where to go and no one understands this.
I feel trapped and so so lonely and sad and just dont no where to turn to.
All he says to me is that I'm mental and need help and I know this is a very short explanation but I just dont know what to do and noone understands.

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When I read this back I realised I've missed so much out as I didnt want to go on but..
I've also helped him with ALOT of money.. he just takes it for granted. And when I bring it up he just says.. dont use that against me never help me again..
And for special events.. I never get taken. He says he wants to spend them with his friends. Not me. And I just dont understand why. As everyone elses gfs go. And I'm stuck at home. I feel like an idiot. And when I say this to him. The reply is.. you dont control me. I'll do what I want. And not explain to me why all their gfs can go.. yet I'm not allowed
 
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😔😔 This sounds like a tough situation. I know you say you have no-where to go, but your relationship with your bf sounds utterly toxic. Is there absolutely no-where else you can go?
 
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😔😔 This sounds like a tough situation. I know you say you have no-where to go, but your relationship with your bf sounds utterly toxic. Is there absolutely no-where else you can go?
This is what people don't understand
Literally nowhere to go
 
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I know it’s easier said than done, but you need to try and manufacture some kind of alternative accommodation
 
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I'm not gonna try to force any advice that i think would be realistic and helpful, We can sympathize cause he's obviously an asshole and you're in a bad spot but, at least for me, I can't say anything meaningful without knowing you I would think and even then, idk...but at least I could listen if you're really just trying to talk about things or vent or whatever.
 
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If you honestly have nowhere to go. You need to start saving money until you can afford to go somwhere. Staying in this toxic relationship is gonna destroy your mental health.
 
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It's very hard for me to save. I have some debt and all my spare money goes on paying that off each month:(
This is why I'm so stuck
 
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I dont know where you are in the world. Do you get tax return ? You could use that as a down payment to get somewhere. Or just find a hotel that charges by month
 
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this sounds utterly awful. the only thing I can think of is to get a live in job somewhere, like in a hotel. You dont always need experience, it depends what job you go for.
To do this is usually easier during summer season but you can get a live in dorm/room and usually share with the other staff and he will never know where you are. you can go anywhere. I did it during my younger years in the Lake district and did housekeeping and waitressing.

I just googled it, here is a link to a jobsite which is an example of what I mean
Free Accommodation Live Jobs - December 2019 | Indeed.co.uk

This may or may not be an option for you, I really dont know but its just an idea as you get accommodation and a job at the same time and to escape from this situation. x
 
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