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dancer133

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I’ve had some relationships in my life go sour lately and I’m not entirely sure what to do. I have one friend who’s often upset or hurt when I try to joke around with her. I don’t ever mean to upset her but somehow I do and it makes me feel awful. She won’t always tell me either sometimes she’ll pull away and lash out in a passive aggressive way. This is recently helped trigger a really negative response from me, making me pull away from a lot of relationships in my life and actually really depressed me until I figured out why she was upset. I try to talk to her and tell her what’s going on, but she’s really focused more on her feelings it seems like and not really acknowledging that I’m upset too. I can come off as uncaring and nonchalant a lot due to a bunch of bad friendships in middle school so it seems like she forgets I actually have feelings because i don’t express them often. Some of my trusted friends are telling me to just cut her out, but I’ve had that happen to me before so i know it hurts. I’ve tried talking to her but no luck. Recently a mutual friend of ours has gotten really distant too and has apparently been calling me names. I’m not sure if he means it jokingly but I’m afraid my friend has told him something to upset him because i don’t know what else i could’ve done? I just feel really overwhelmed by all of this and I don’t know what to do.

Sorry for such a long post and thanks for any advice!
 
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Everyone needs to learn better communication skills and to develop honesty and to make a commitment to positive non violence in thought, word and deed. By the way, this will take you years to cultivate.

You can start by researching Rogerian reflection and Transactional Analysis.
 
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:welcome: to the forum. I don't have good luck with friendships either. :low:
 
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