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Just diagnosed and getting used to it

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reno_delacey

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Hey everyone. I was formally diagnosed with BPD just this week, and I'm trying to wrap my head around it. At first, I was sure it couldn't be right, but... looking into it more and talking to my closest friends and boyfriend about it, everything's starting to make sense.

It's so confusing, because obviously nothing has actually changed. I'm still the same person and I've been experiencing these symptoms for years, but since I'd been dismissing BPD as a possibility for ages it still feels like something's different now. I'm scared that this diagnosis will mean people are nervous about their relationships with me, or that I'll become too paranoid about my relationships with others now that I know what causes my problems with people.

If anyone has any advice about getting used to a new diagnosis, that would be really appreciated.

PS: Is it a common experience for others with BPD to have periods of time where they cry a lot for really small reasons? This past week or so, basically everything has been making me cry, but it never lasts long at all.
 
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wheezey

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Hello reno. I also have BPD. I am now on medication but without it I cry constantly. I am also pretty unstable so I find being on antidepressants really helps me.
 
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reno_delacey

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Hi, thanks for the reply. Good to know I'm not alone with the excessive crying thing. I've tried many different antidepressants over the years but I've just been prescribed a mood stabiliser since the antidepressants didn't stop my mood swings. Hopefully the new meds will calm things for me. I'm glad your medication seems to work well for you!
 
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Hi
My first and best piece of advice is don't tell anyone you have BPD.
Not just yet...
Stop, think, take a breath, will telling the people who know you now your diagnosis make any difference between you.

Will your boss finding out make a difference to your job.
You health insurance
Your chance of mortgage

Now that's out of the way.
You don't get used to this diagnosis, you've been living with it for sometime.
But please understand this BPD is a collection of letters it does define you as a person, it gives a collection of symptoms written down in a piece of paper that someone says defines you as a person which is boll**ks.
You are you, you just think a little differently, do things a little out there, and live, love and cry just like everyone else.
You bleed red blood not poison.
So stop worrying about the diagnosis, start thinking about finding someone who can help you manage the symptoms and learn to enjoy when the highs hit as you'll never be as productive any where else than you are then.
When the shit downers hit, have 1 really good person who can watch you, talk to you and guide you.
Get a decent therapist
Xxc
 
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IWILLOBTAINMENTALHEALTH

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I cry almost every day. I am thinking about getting on a mood stabilizer too. You just get use to your diagnosis over time. It is really hard at first to be diagnosed. But sometimes for me I feel like I am not use to it. Weird and contradictory though. :hug:
 
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:welcome: to the forum x
i cry every single day ,sometimes uncontrollably ,often for no reason
i hope having this diagnosis helps yo ,in terms of getting the right treatment and support
you are very welcome here
love fairy Lu x
 
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welcome to the forum, ive been diagnosed about 1 and a half year ago,
bpd is frustrating because theres no cure for it,
so we just have to take one day at a time
 
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welcome to the forum, ive been diagnosed about 1 and a half year ago,
bpd is frustrating because theres no cure for it,
so we just have to take one day at a time
Hi
BPD is the only personality disorder which can be "cured"
Throughout your life you will move in and out of the criteria.
When I first was diagnosed I didn't think anything could help. 48 weeks of hard therapy with a great therapist says differently.
My OH said my ICD score was 7/9, my psych 8/9 now it's 1-2 on a bad day.
I can fall back into learned behaviours when things go wrong and I'm not quite fast enough to stop them, but that is all they are, maladaptive ways of coping with crap and life in a way that you protect yourself.
Some of the stuff, the SI or attempts are your minds way of telling you it's too full and you need to sort some shit out.
I drive(fast) it satisfies my need for thrill seeking, I don't drink and have never done drugs, but I've gone 140mph on a motorway or 80mph over a well known dangerous country road where there is no lighting...
But even now, I still like to drive fast, but not to escape, but because I like to drive fast.
So yes live one day at a time, but also find someone who can help you live for the future.
Xx
 
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